Advice for Adult Victims of Cyberbullying

Posted by Justin W. Patchin on November 9, 2010

45377178We get a lot of emails, phone calls, and comments on this blog from adults who are being bullied though technology.  They stress to us that cyberbullying is not just an adolescent problem.  Believe me, we know.  We receive more inquiries from adults than teens.  We know that cyberbullying negatively affects adults too.  It’s just that we spend the majority of our efforts studying how this problem impacts school-aged youth due to their tenuous developmental stage.  That said, I thought I would take some time here to give the adults who have been victimized out there some general advice.

First, it is important to keep all evidence of the bullying: messages, posts, comments, etc.  If there are ways you can determine who exactly is making the comments, also document that.  Second, contact the service or content provider through which the bullying is occurring.  For example, if you are being cyberbullied on Facebook, contact them.  If you are receiving hurtful or threatening cell phone messages, contact your cell phone company to obtain assistance.  Along those same lines, familiarize yourself with the Terms of Use for the various sites you frequent, and the online accounts you sign up for.  Many web sites expressly prohibit harassment and if you report it through their established mechanisms, the content and/or bully should be removed from the site in a timely manner.  To be sure, some web site administrators are better and quicker at this than others.

Also, please be careful not to retaliate – or do anything that might be perceived by an outsider to have contributed to the problem.  Do not respond to the cyberbully except to calmly tell them to stop.  If they refuse, you may have to take additional actions.  If you are ever afraid for your safety, you need to contact law enforcement to investigate.  They can determine whether any threats made are credible.  If they are, the police will formally look into it.  The evidence that you have collected will help them to evaluate your situation.

You should also take the time to check your state laws.  We have discussed some of these laws on this blog and have a summary of many applicable laws here.  In Wisconsin, for example, it is a misdemeanor if someone uses computerized communication systems to “frighten, intimidate, threaten, abuse, or harass another person.”  It is also against the law to “harass annoy, or offend another person.”  See what the laws in your state are to determine if the police should get involved.

If the threats or comments are detrimental to your health, safety, or occupation, you might want to consult with an attorney who specializes in harassment, defamation of character, false light, intentional infliction of emotional distress, or similar types of civil action.  A letter sent from an attorney (on law firm letterhead) to the bully may be all that is necessary to get the bullying to stop.  The problem with this approach is that it can be costly.  I have spoken to some victims who have consulted with attorneys who want a significant sum of money to get involved, even at a basic level.  I can only imagine how frustrating this is after experiencing emotional and psychological suffering – and then realizing that you can’t afford to get legal help.  Another problem associated with pursuing a bully through civil action is that, even if you are successful and a judge or jury rules in your favor, it can be difficult to determine an appropriate damage amount.  I served as an expert witness in a cyberbullying case in the summer of 2008.  In that case, the adult victims were being bullied in an AOL chat room.  Everyone agreed that what the bully was doing was wrong, but to what were the victims entitled?  They had some modest medical bills and could be reimbursed for costs associated with their AOL account – but these losses added up to less than $1,000.  And while I don’t know the actual amount, I am sure their legal bills were in the tens of thousands of dollars.  They ended up settling for a very small amount – just to make a statement to the bully.  Most of us can’t afford to take those actions on principle alone.

In sum, it can be difficult to hold bullies accountable for their actions (for both adolescents and adults).  In a country such as ours that values free speech so highly, many people genuinely believe they can say whatever they want, to whomever they want.  We know that is not true, but it isn’t clear where exactly the line is.  And just because we *can* say certain things, doesn’t mean we should.  It’s no wonder that many teens are wrestling with this problem—they see the adults in their lives saying mean and nasty things to others on a regular basis.  Do your part to model appropriate behavior and address any hurtful language when it comes up.  The kids (and other adults) in your life will hopefully see it, remember it, and act in the right ways.

  • SumGoddess

    Let’s all send email to everyone associated with Shiwibear02 aka Myron Panteah, about his online and off line behavior, especially his stalking of women who have rejected his vile perverted sexual advances. Gigglywaterfalll is one of his Victims.

    Shiwibear02: hey maly send an email about giggas personality on line to her massge board in idaho
    Shiwibear02: how she acts and stuff
    malymal18: OK
    Shiwibear02: im sending one to the BBB of idaho and nampa
    malymal18: WUTS DA ADDY
    Shiwibear02: showing how she asa health professional is acting and saying to people on line
    Shiwibear02: ill send it to you in e mail
    malymal18: OK TY
    Shiwibear02: im working on the letter right now
    malymal18: OK
    Shiwibear02: okay see you later

    below shows some of his sick perversion.
    Shiwibear02: gigs grndbabie should be raped and murdered hhahahaha

  • The Real Guest

    CreeperRulez: BECAUSE HE’S THE ONLY NDN GUY WHO WILL ACTUALLY GIVE THE HAG SOME IOTA OF ATTENTION WHICH SHE CRAVES
    CreeperRulez: BUT I DON’T SEE F98 “POKING” THE HAG IN THE NEAR FUTURE

    CreeperRulez: LOL FOR THE BEST, NDN

    CreeperRulez: EXCEPT WITH RANDOM MALES ON THE STREETS OF RAPIDS AND WHITE CLAY

    CreeperRulez: TRYING TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE PASSED OUT DRUNKS
    CreeperRulez: EWWWW

    CreeperRulez: I WAS THINKING THE SAME THING, TURK LOL
    CreeperRulez: PROBABLY HER FAKE CUZZZ

    CreeperRulez: TRUE NDN BUT WHAT CAN THEY DO IF THEY’RE PARALYZED FROM BEING SO INTOXCATED?
    CreeperRulez: YEAH
    CreeperRulez: HE WAS SURE A STRANGE ONE
    CreeperRulez: I SUPPOSE IT’S ALSO GOING TO BE REFERED TO AS “NATIVE AMERICAN CINNABUNZ” TOO?
    CreeperRulez: THERE’S THE FAKE “CUZZIN”
    CreeperRulez: MORE LIKE A HILLBILLY, PLEXA
    CreeperRulez: <LAUGHS HOW A SO-CALLED TEACHERS AID DON'T REALLY KNOW JACK ABOUT THE PEOPLE SHE CLAIMS TO BE OF
    CreeperRulez: INDIANS ARE FROM INDIA, YOU BETTER CHECK YOUR HISTORY BOOK AGAIN, SO-CALLED UNEDUCATED TEACHER'S AID

    CreeperRulez: LOOKS LIKE A TWO SPIRITED SUE KABOTA
    CreeperRulez: BUT NO CINNABUNZ, GIGGS?
    CreeperRulez: ANY TRANNY SIGHTINGS, GIGGS?
    CreeperRulez: ACCORDING TO THE TRANNY, FISH LEFT GIGGS ABOUT A YEAR AGO LOL!
    CreeperRulez: AND WENT BACK TO TEXAS WHERE HE HAS SOME LAND THERE
    CreeperRulez: I KNOW BUT I SAW THAT AND CRACKED UP BIG TIME, HALI
    CreeperRulez: HOMOWINKTE IS A BETTER DESCRIPTION
    CreeperRulez: OLD LICE DANCED TIL CROTCH ROACHES FELL OUT HER ORIFACE AND WAS BANNED SINCE
    CreeperRulez: IS SHE SELLING TY-JUAN'S JUNK FOR HIM?

    CreeperRulez: DID THE KISSING COUSINS GO TO IMS TO CYBER?
    CreeperRulez: MOANING? ACKKKKK!
    CreeperRulez: LOL NO WONDER SHE'S MOANING
    CreeperRulez: HAHAHAHAHA
    CreeperRulez: ROFL!
    CreeperRulez: SHE'S MOANING WHILE HIS CONEHEAD IS ALMOST PENCIL SIZE
    CreeperRulez: ROFLMAO!
    CreeperRulez: <STILL CRACKING UP AT ONE OF PLEXA'S COMMENTS HAHAHAHAHA!

    CreeperRulez: TY GUYS FOR THE HUMOR ALWAYS
    CreeperRulez: ME BE NICE? NEVER!
    CreeperRulez: JUST FACTS

    CreeperRulez: HALI, IT'S JUST SAD THAT HIS HEAD AT THAT SIZE COULD STILL MAKE HER MOAN
    CreeperRulez: TIM MUST BE RIGHT
    CreeperRulez: SHE PROBABLY HAS THE USE THE PEDIATRIC SPECULUM FOR A PAP SMEAR
    CreeperRulez: WATERED DOWN PEPSI, BURNED AND MOLDED CINNABUNZ, BLEH!
    CreeperRulez: AT A CONCESSION STAND WHERE THE OTHER TEAM DON'T SHOW
    CreeperRulez: LOL
    CreeperRulez: EWWWW

    CreeperRulez: SHE'S BAKING HER OWN VERSION OF "SOUR DOUGH"?
    CreeperRulez: YOU DON'T HAVE A REAL LIFE

    CreeperRulez: BUT KEEP TRYING
    CreeperRulez: HER FAKE CUZZIN IS BUSY TRYING TO GET IT UP FOR HER
    CreeperRulez: SAHARA? I REMEMBER THAT HAG
    CreeperRulez: THE FAKE CHOCTAW

    CreeperRulez: IN CALIFORNIA
    CreeperRulez: HEY F98, LICE WAS MOANING FOR YOU AGAIN
    CreeperRulez: BUT HER "CUZZIN" SHOWED UP TO SATISFY HER INSTEAD
    CreeperRulez: AND I HEAR YOUR LOOSE REAR COSTS A PENNY, WINKTE

    CreeperRulez: YEAH WE HEARD YOU SCREAM AFTER A BLACK GUY REAMED YOUR NASTY WHITE TWAT OUT TWINKLE
    CreeperRulez: NOW YOU ACT LIKE SOME GHETTO TRASH HAG

    CreeperRulez: I GUESS YOUR TRYING TO PASS YOUR MIXED SELF INTO THINKING YOUR NDN TOO? LOL
    CreeperRulez: PLEXA, TWINKLE IS A COWARD TOO SCARED TO COME ON IT'S REGULAR S/N
    CreeperRulez: PLEXA, SO DOG IS IN A WHITE NEIGHBORHOOD OF HIS OWN?

  • The Real Guest

    CreeperRulez: BECAUSE HE’S THE ONLY NDN GUY WHO WILL ACTUALLY GIVE THE HAG SOME IOTA OF ATTENTION WHICH SHE CRAVES
    CreeperRulez: BUT I DON’T SEE F98 “POKING” THE HAG IN THE NEAR FUTURE
    CreeperRulez: LOL FOR THE BEST, NDN

    CreeperRulez: EXCEPT WITH RANDOM MALES ON THE STREETS OF RAPIDS AND WHITE CLAY

    CreeperRulez: TRYING TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE PASSED OUT DRUNKS
    CreeperRulez: EWWWW

    CreeperRulez: I WAS THINKING THE SAME THING, TURK LOL
    CreeperRulez: PROBABLY HER FAKE CUZZZ

    CreeperRulez: TRUE NDN BUT WHAT CAN THEY DO IF THEY’RE PARALYZED FROM BEING SO INTOXCATED?
    CreeperRulez: YEAH
    CreeperRulez: HE WAS SURE A STRANGE ONE
    CreeperRulez: I SUPPOSE IT’S ALSO GOING TO BE REFERED TO AS “NATIVE AMERICAN CINNABUNZ” TOO?
    CreeperRulez: THERE’S THE FAKE “CUZZIN”
    CreeperRulez: MORE LIKE A HILLBILLY, PLEXA
    CreeperRulez: <LAUGHS HOW A SO-CALLED TEACHERS AID DON'T REALLY KNOW JACK ABOUT THE PEOPLE SHE CLAIMS TO BE OF
    CreeperRulez: INDIANS ARE FROM INDIA, YOU BETTER CHECK YOUR HISTORY BOOK AGAIN, SO-CALLED UNEDUCATED TEACHER'S AID

    CreeperRulez: LOOKS LIKE A TWO SPIRITED SUE KABOTA
    CreeperRulez: BUT NO CINNABUNZ, GIGGS?
    CreeperRulez: ANY TRANNY SIGHTINGS, GIGGS?
    CreeperRulez: ACCORDING TO THE TRANNY, FISH LEFT GIGGS ABOUT A YEAR AGO LOL!
    CreeperRulez: AND WENT BACK TO TEXAS WHERE HE HAS SOME LAND THERE
    CreeperRulez: I KNOW BUT I SAW THAT AND CRACKED UP BIG TIME, HALI
    CreeperRulez: HOMOWINKTE IS A BETTER DESCRIPTION
    CreeperRulez: OLD LICE DANCED TIL CROTCH ROACHES FELL OUT HER ORIFACE AND WAS BANNED SINCE
    CreeperRulez: IS SHE SELLING TY-JUAN'S JUNK FOR HIM?

    CreeperRulez: DID THE KISSING COUSINS GO TO IMS TO CYBER?
    CreeperRulez: MOANING? ACKKKKK!
    CreeperRulez: LOL NO WONDER SHE'S MOANING
    CreeperRulez: HAHAHAHAHA
    CreeperRulez: ROFL!
    CreeperRulez: SHE'S MOANING WHILE HIS CONEHEAD IS ALMOST PENCIL SIZE
    CreeperRulez: ROFLMAO!
    CreeperRulez: <STILL CRACKING UP AT ONE OF PLEXA'S COMMENTS HAHAHAHAHA!

    CreeperRulez: TY GUYS FOR THE HUMOR ALWAYS
    CreeperRulez: ME BE NICE? NEVER!
    CreeperRulez: JUST FACTS

    CreeperRulez: HALI, IT'S JUST SAD THAT HIS HEAD AT THAT SIZE COULD STILL MAKE HER MOAN
    CreeperRulez: TIM MUST BE RIGHT
    CreeperRulez: SHE PROBABLY HAS THE USE THE PEDIATRIC SPECULUM FOR A PAP SMEAR
    CreeperRulez: WATERED DOWN PEPSI, BURNED AND MOLDED CINNABUNZ, BLEH!
    CreeperRulez: AT A CONCESSION STAND WHERE THE OTHER TEAM DON'T SHOW
    CreeperRulez: LOL
    CreeperRulez: EWWWW

    CreeperRulez: SHE'S BAKING HER OWN VERSION OF "SOUR DOUGH"?
    CreeperRulez: YOU DON'T HAVE A REAL LIFE

    CreeperRulez: BUT KEEP TRYING
    CreeperRulez: HER FAKE CUZZIN IS BUSY TRYING TO GET IT UP FOR HER
    CreeperRulez: SAHARA? I REMEMBER THAT HAG
    CreeperRulez: THE FAKE CHOCTAW

    CreeperRulez: IN CALIFORNIA
    CreeperRulez: HEY F98, LICE WAS MOANING FOR YOU AGAIN
    CreeperRulez: BUT HER "CUZZIN" SHOWED UP TO SATISFY HER INSTEAD
    CreeperRulez: AND I HEAR YOUR LOOSE REAR COSTS A PENNY, WINKTE

    CreeperRulez: YEAH WE HEARD YOU SCREAM AFTER A BLACK GUY REAMED YOUR NASTY WHITE TWAT OUT TWINKLE
    CreeperRulez: NOW YOU ACT LIKE SOME GHETTO TRASH HAG

    CreeperRulez: I GUESS YOUR TRYING TO PASS YOUR MIXED SELF INTO THINKING YOUR NDN TOO? LOL
    CreeperRulez: PLEXA, TWINKLE IS A COWARD TOO SCARED TO COME ON IT'S REGULAR S/N
    CreeperRulez: PLEXA, SO DOG IS IN A WHITE NEIGHBORHOOD OF HIS OWN?

  • The Real Guest

    Lets see if this is working now.

    CreeperRulez: BECAUSE HE’S THE ONLY NDN GUY WHO WILL ACTUALLY GIVE THE HAG SOME IOTA OF ATTENTION WHICH SHE CRAVES
    CreeperRulez: BUT I DON’T SEE F98 “POKING” THE HAG IN THE NEAR FUTURE
    CreeperRulez: LOL FOR THE BEST, NDN
    CreeperRulez: EXCEPT WITH RANDOM MALES ON THE STREETS OF RAPIDS AND WHITE CLAY
    CreeperRulez: TRYING TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE PASSED OUT DRUNKS
    CreeperRulez: EWWWW
    CreeperRulez: I WAS THINKING THE SAME THING, TURK LOL
    CreeperRulez: PROBABLY HER FAKE CUZZZ
    CreeperRulez: TRUE NDN BUT WHAT CAN THEY DO IF THEY’RE PARALYZED FROM BEING SO INTOXCATED?
    CreeperRulez: YEAH
    CreeperRulez: HE WAS SURE A STRANGE ONE
    CreeperRulez: I SUPPOSE IT’S ALSO GOING TO BE REFERED TO AS “NATIVE AMERICAN CINNABUNZ” TOO?
    CreeperRulez: THERE’S THE FAKE “CUZZIN”
    CreeperRulez: MORE LIKE A HILLBILLY, PLEXA
    CreeperRulez: LAUGHS HOW A SO-CALLED TEACHERS AID DON’T REALLY KNOW JACK ABOUT THE PEOPLE SHE CLAIMS TO BE OF
    CreeperRulez: INDIANS ARE FROM INDIA, YOU BETTER CHECK YOUR HISTORY BOOK AGAIN, SO-CALLED UNEDUCATED TEACHER’S AID
    CreeperRulez: LOOKS LIKE A TWO SPIRITED SUE KABOTA
    CreeperRulez: BUT NO CINNABUNZ, GIGGS?
    CreeperRulez: ANY TRANNY SIGHTINGS, GIGGS?
    CreeperRulez: ACCORDING TO THE TRANNY, FISH LEFT GIGGS ABOUT A YEAR AGO LOL!
    CreeperRulez: AND WENT BACK TO TEXAS WHERE HE HAS SOME LAND THERE
    CreeperRulez: I KNOW BUT I SAW THAT AND CRACKED UP BIG TIME, HALI
    CreeperRulez: HOMOWINKTE IS A BETTER DESCRIPTION
    CreeperRulez: OLD LICE DANCED TIL CROTCH ROACHES FELL OUT HER ORIFACE AND WAS BANNED SINCE
    CreeperRulez: IS SHE SELLING TY-JUAN’S JUNK FOR HIM?
    CreeperRulez: DID THE KISSING COUSINS GO TO IMS TO CYBER?
    CreeperRulez: MOANING? ACKKKKK!
    CreeperRulez: LOL NO WONDER SHE’S MOANING
    CreeperRulez: HAHAHAHAHA
    CreeperRulez: ROFL!
    CreeperRulez: SHE’S MOANING WHILE HIS CONEHEAD IS ALMOST PENCIL SIZE
    CreeperRulez: ROFLMAO!
    CreeperRulez: STILL CRACKING UP AT ONE OF PLEXA’S COMMENTS HAHAHAHAHA!
    CreeperRulez: TY GUYS FOR THE HUMOR ALWAYS
    CreeperRulez: ME BE NICE? NEVER!
    CreeperRulez: JUST FACTS
    CreeperRulez: HALI, IT’S JUST SAD THAT HIS HEAD AT THAT SIZE COULD STILL MAKE HER MOAN
    CreeperRulez: TIM MUST BE RIGHT
    CreeperRulez: SHE PROBABLY HAS THE USE THE PEDIATRIC SPECULUM FOR A PAP SMEAR
    CreeperRulez: WATERED DOWN PEPSI, BURNED AND MOLDED CINNABUNZ, BLEH!
    CreeperRulez: AT A CONCESSION STAND WHERE THE OTHER TEAM DON’T SHOW
    CreeperRulez: LOL
    CreeperRulez: EWWWW
    CreeperRulez: SHE’S BAKING HER OWN VERSION OF “SOUR DOUGH”?
    CreeperRulez: YOU DON’T HAVE A REAL LIFE
    CreeperRulez: BUT KEEP TRYING
    CreeperRulez: HER FAKE CUZZIN IS BUSY TRYING TO GET IT UP FOR HER
    CreeperRulez: SAHARA? I REMEMBER THAT HAG
    CreeperRulez: THE FAKE CHOCTAW
    CreeperRulez: IN CALIFORNIA
    CreeperRulez: HEY F98, LICE WAS MOANING FOR YOU AGAIN
    CreeperRulez: BUT HER “CUZZIN” SHOWED UP TO SATISFY HER INSTEAD
    CreeperRulez: AND I HEAR YOUR LOOSE REAR COSTS A PENNY, WINKTE
    CreeperRulez: YEAH WE HEARD YOU SCREAM AFTER A BLACK GUY REAMED YOUR NASTY WHITE TWAT OUT TWINKLE
    CreeperRulez: NOW YOU ACT LIKE SOME GHETTO TRASH HAG
    CreeperRulez: I GUESS YOUR TRYING TO PASS YOUR MIXED SELF INTO THINKING YOUR NDN TOO? LOL
    CreeperRulez: PLEXA, TWINKLE IS A COWARD TOO SCARED TO COME ON IT’S REGULAR S/N
    CreeperRulez: PLEXA, SO DOG IS IN A WHITE NEIGHBORHOOD OF HIS OWN?

  • NAC Logger

    I have been watching the activity that’s been going on in the Native American Chatroom on AOL for quite some time and I too am appalled by the nasty comments by this screen name Shiwibear02.
    Shiwibear02: loser plex dead wife no life
    Shiwibear02: hahahaha
    Shiwibear02: has to come into nac in the middle of the night ot find company
    Shiwibear02: that’s a loser
    Shiwibear02: hahahahhahha
    Shiwibear02: no facts ndn4 the lawyer has no facts just type
    Shiwibear02: turk blew him out the lolitical ring
    Shiwibear02: like sharon did plex<<< Plex's wife of 46 years passed away
    Shiwibear02: before you axed her
    Shiwibear02: poor lady
    Shiwibear02: gigs grndbabe should be raped and murdered hahahaha

    I don't blame the likes of NDN4, ImShoshone, Plexaglass, CreeperRulez, Gigglywayerfalll and others for defending themselves. Ones like LakotaIceBaby who enjoy the disgusting comments made by Shiwibear02 need to get a brain and wake up. If someone made those kind of comments about my family like is not something that would fly with me either. I agree that people who are involved with Shiwibear02's line of work should be notified about some of the comments he says about people's families. Especially the comment about Gigglywaterfalll's grandbaby. That really crosses a line and I don't think very many people who know that individual offline would like seeing that kind of behavior. Anyone I can contact whom has business with Shiwibear02 or Myron Panteah as he calls himself will definitely be in order.

    Remember I will be watching.

  • Gogetta

    I am being unmercifully cyber bullied in a game on facebook that is basically a chat room. I file almost daily reports to Playdom the creator of the game and have even reached out to facebook but nothing is ever done. A facebook group was created using my first and middle initials with my last name. It was filled with photo’s on myself and my children and making fun of my looks, my weight and emotional issues i have suffered due to the loss my father at 5..my mother at 9 …my brother on Christmas Day of 88 and the loss of my mother-in-law (best friend) a year before i started playing the game. When i began playing, it was really my first experiance on the internet. A friend ask me to start playing with her. I did not realize how cruel and horrible people could be. I was having problems getting out and socialzing since the recent death of my mother-in-law, for whom i was the caregiver. We were extremely close and her illness and death brought back all the pain and anguish of the loss of my parents and brother. Despite being in therapy 2 X’s a week during her illness and still continuing to this day…I suffered incredibly. I was suicidal and began self-harming, often referred to as cutting. A individual cuts themselves on the outside to relieve the pain on the inside. It is more commonly associated with youth but can and does happen during all ages.

    At first the game was wonderful because i have always been outgoing and social but my depression was causing me not to be able to go out and meet people. The game met that need by giving me a opportunity to socialize with people…I falsely thought that everyone i met was my friend. You have a house (group) that you add as friends to play the game with and you have a feed in which the people in your house are all talking. I developed a private friendship with a girl and we shared our emotional issues by private emails. I considered us good friends. I added some people she suggested to my house and we were all having fun until i noticed them bullying players from other houses. I removed them from my house and it strained my relationship with this friend. Eventually i told her that i wanted to remain friends outside the game but due to the people in her house that were being cruel and bullying others i was going to remove her from my house….that is when everything went bad. She put out in public that i was a “Cutter” with emotional issues and then she added the LIE that i have incestuous feelings for my son. It started a 2 year campaign to harass, lie, bully, talk about and ruin my reputation. Their goal to run me out of a game that i have as much right to play as anyone. I refuse to bow down to bullies. Every aspect of my appearance and life have been made fun of. My name, address and phone number have been posted. I have been called a pedofile and letters were sent to people in my house telling them i am a pedofile. One person who’s husband was military and suffered a traumatic head injury and medically discharged joined the game just to harass me as well. He made threats to have my son..A Marine stationed in Washington D.C. at that time and assigned to the unit that has presidential duties, found and beaten up by his military buddies. It was also threatened that his chain of command would be notified and informed about his “Crazy, Incestuous, Pedofile, Mentally Unstable mother. My son was called all kinds of horrible things and by the way…he has never played this game or spoken to any of these people. I was told that i deserved to have him come home a invalid, missing limbs or in a steel coffin. I was told to do the world a favor and put a gun in my mouth and pull the trigger along with the comment that this would all end when i perforated my soft palette. Our home was looked up by satellite and talked about along with our vehicles. Horrible bigoted remarks were made about my other son which were totally untrue….that he is a homeless meth addict and comments to horrible to repeat (again untrue) about his sexual preference. Even my daughter and my husband were targeted. My husband is a police officer and when i showed him the threats against our son, he went online and looked this man up. It wasnt hard because this man had recently been awarded a purple heart for his head injury. My husband read the published article about this man and the effects of his traumatic head injury, which included loss of impulse control..inability to manage anger or emotional issues that are severe enough that he can not hold a job. The article said he was being treated and helped by the Wounded Warrior Project and listed his mentor’s name and email. This really frighten us as parents. This man lived in very close proximity to were our son was stationed. Our son’s position at that time..due to his work at the White House…required a high security clearance. Our son knew nothing about what was going on and if he had he would have had to share that with his superiors…effecting his position. My husband had a duty, not only as a father but as a law enforcement officer, to report this man and his threats. He contacted the mentor by email and attached the screenshots of the threats and ask the mentor to talk to this man and make sure that he was getting any emotional help that he needed. The mentor responded and acknowledged he had seen the screenshots. He said it was not their “normal” policy to become involved in these types of issues but that they would talk to him. That satisfied us. Evidently the WWP decided that to protect themselves should anything happen to our son…they contacted the Veterens Administration and the local police. We NEVER made a call to either one. This man was almost hospitalized because of the threats he made against me and my son. He was removed from facebook and the game but it only made the situation worse for me in the game.

    His wife and the rest of the group just stepped up their harassment. They have threatened people that if they dont remove me from their groups…they themselves will be removed. They post on whiteboards of other people…that can be seen by any of the millions who play the game..that i am incestuous with my son, that i am crazy and constant daily remarks about me being a “Cutter”. Things like “I wish you would choke on one of your fat rolls because we are tired of waiting for you to CUT TOO DEEP and bleed out”. They name their avatars things like “Got Knife And Urges” …”Incest is Best” etc. Despite being blocked from my board and facebook, they know everything that i saw on my feed or put on my facebook. Then they take the information, anything from what i am cooking for supper to my pet being sick and use it to make fun of me all day on their boards. This game is a fighting game so they attack my avatar all day to the point that i cant play the game but that is considered “gameplay” even though it is done to the point of harassing. If i just ignore them, they go post horrible comments about me on the boards of my sisters (friends) and attack them unmercifully. Their harassment of my sisters has caused most of them to remove me just to be able to play and enjoy the game. The will stay on the person until they remove me then they are left alone. Probably half the people who play do so for the social aspect and not the fighting aspect. I screenshot everything they say about me and report it to playdom but nothing has been done except to mute them for a period of days (less than a week) so that they cant talk or post on boards. As soon as that is over they are back at it. They create fake accounts with my name and use it to serial attack other players and make them think it is me. They constantly talk about my weight, my looks, my family etc. A letter was written anonymously and sent to my husband at his work. It threatened to go to his boss and say that i was using my husband position to threaten people (a total lie). It said that if he did NOT make me stop playing the game..his boss would be contacted. My son was sent a e-mail on his facebook..saying that i was suicidal and needed to be removed from the internet. My husbands work was called and the phone number posted. Threats are constantly being made against my family if i dont stop playing. I do document, screenshot and report everything but it continues. I had to remove my family to a seperate facebook account just to protect their privacy. It spilled over onto facebook a long time ago. I am constantly being made fun of because of my depression and self harm issues (which i have not done in over 3 years) I am accused of faking suicide attempts and constantly being told i should end everyones misery and kill myself. I have reached out for help from every place i can find but i refuse to let people bully me out of a game that i have as much right to play as they do. If their tactics are allowed to work then they will just move from me to someone else. As long as facebook and game creators allow this to go on…it will continue.Something needs to be done to make them accountable for the behavior they allow to continue in their games and sites. Facebook tells me it is a playdom issue and playdom says they take the matter seriously and are taking action..but that i cant be informed of any action that is occurring. It is the same automated response i get every time i file a report. The players are still there everyday and doing the same thing, so NOTHING is being done. When a account was made using my name and photo, i reported it only to be told that they have no control over how the account is made on facebook yet they do have the ability to delete that account from the game and they dont. Facebook says to report it via the report button but that button does not appear in the game..only on facebook. The bullies get around that by creating the account on facebook but blocking me so that i am not able to find it and report it. When i report to facebook as a 3rd party violation they allowed me to tell the story and then told me that they had contacted playdom and that playdom was addressing the issue..which they DO NOT do. When i ask facebook to connect me to someone that i could talk to about the matter, the responded that i should report via the report button. I responded that i was having difficulting doing that because of the reasons i stated above and again ask to be connected to someone that could help me. The repeated their earlier response. I repeated mine and they never responded again. When i reported the group page using my name and photo’s i received a response from facebook that my report had been unfounded. They said i could file a repeal but said if it was unfounded i could lose my account. I was in complete shock…since the account had photo’s of me and my children in it and i never authorized anyone to use them. I did file the appeal and the account was removed by i never received a response from facebook. I dont know if facebook removed it or if the bullies got scared and removed it themselves. My husband is reluctant to intervene because of his position and the fact that it would look like he is using that position. I dont work and we rely on his income to survive. We have considered a lawsuit but it is very costly and difficult to prosecute with everyone living in different states. He did talk to the local FBI agent about it but was told that they dont get involved in cyberbully cases against adults. My reputation has been completely ruined by their lies and the tactics they use to harass anyone who tries to defend me or stand up for me. People that dont even know me…talk about me and spread the lies that they have been told about me. It has caused me severe emotional pain and anguish. It’s not right and should not be allowed to occur online.

    • http://profile.yahoo.com/YSN6EBB4G253M56LFHSNEDLX6M rita

      the same type of people that are participating in the horrific event to discredit you are the same type of people that killed Jesus Christ. Look at the movie “the Passion of Christ.”

  • Alma

    A well-known American scientific figure published an accusation against me in a Mexican magazine 2 years ago. He said that I wrote an article with his name and I gave a conference making me pass by him. I don’t know how someone can confuse me if I am a woman and he is man. He accused me of madness. Nobody asked my declaration; Mexican mass media spread the news.

    Nobody search evidence or tried to found if there was something else on those accusations. There was no legal action against me, but I couldn’t defend.
    The article was published two days after that I had left Mexico city to spend the Christmas holidays in the United States, where I live since 2008. My e-mail and my social networks were hacked.

    In the Mexican magazine where he published, the people said anything they wishes, including all sorts of lies. When I returned to Mexico I lost my job, not for the scandal, but because I missed my work because all of this gave me heart damage.

    I lost my job in Mexico, my colleagues do not speak to me and I came back to the United States, I was away by depression for 6 months and then I got up, I began to write and it’s what I do so far. However, under different names, and multiple emails a person from Mexico has attacked me in multiple forums. Send emails to my editors, publisher, sometimes attacks my social networks, and publishes the original note which appeared in Mexico. He always send copy to this famous scientist. My attacker is obsessed with him and won’t stop until see me dead, I think

    I’ve searched help but I have not found anyone.

    I just saw that the laws do not condemn these actions. When someone says is an expert in these things, only send me books that I should read. I AM A VICTIM. Police do not help me because all this started in Mexico and my perpetrator is Mexican. Mexico does not help me because I am not resident of Mexico.

    So I just keep holding on and trying to survive.

    Anyone only needs a name to skip the laws, accusing someone and make you guilty, without having to prove otherwise.

  • 1guy

    I am really sorry for your issue, Alma. I too have been cyber bullied on forums, message boards, and it has followed me to other sites too. People don’t like themselves, that’s why they do that to others. It’s very unfortunate. I wish it could all go away.

    • Alma

      Thanks!
      I think there are many persons with the same problem. Can any law defend us?

  • Tina

    I am a very popular school teacher in Fl. I am being cyber bullied by an ex who is trying to ruin my career after a judge ruled in my favor for an injunction for sexual assault. Although it is against the law here in Florida and I have lots of evidence against him the state attorney will not do anything. He has even admitted it to people and yet they won’t do anything. I feel like I am living in the twilight zone. He is so protected and I am the one suffering. I don’t know what to do anymore.

  • Thewildeman2

    I went the wrong way in dealing with a group of fantatic cyberbullies and they have spent the last three years finding ways to attack two steps shy of any laws. They dug up a court record from 2004 where I had to sue my employers. They posted that in their blog and only the parts they could make look the worst. Now they’ve written a 200,000 page book with me in it as a “fictional” character that they are selling on Amazon. I can’t do anything unless I can sue them and show sufficient damages. But what damages? What did I do to become their permanent plaything? I stood up to them for someone else and “got into it with them”. Wrong way. I retaliated and now it will never ever end. Even though I’ve blocked them on Facebook and Twitter, it never ends. I’m “tagged” in all they do so when people google me for my work, they find the horrible writings about me. I don’t know what to do and they claim to be an “initiative” for positive things, but they sure aren’t. Anyway, that’s my story in a nutshell.

  • Gogetta

    I understand how you all feel. It is unbelievable that people can do this to others and get away with it. Until there is consequences for the behavior, these people will continue to bully others.

  • bella

    my ex husband of two years continues to text message me on a weekly basis physically threating me and my husband, calling me extremely crude names, and threating to tell my children all kinds of delusions he has. i have asked him to stop. a judge has ruled for him to stop not once but twice. i have put a restraining order against him. i have put a protective order against him. however, these have a very limited time frame of enforcement. since we have children i still have to be in contact with him. our contact is only through texting or email. i purchased a phone for my children to take to his house so i do not have to call his phone. however, anytime there is a “problem” or something doesn’t go his way, he starts with the threats and harassment through texting. i am at a lose. attorney fees are over $5k now and nothing seems to get any better. any suggestions?

    • Thewildeman2

      Can you download all your texts and print out all your emails? If so and he has a court order, you should print them all out as soon as you are able (even if you have to get a thumb drive and go to a library or friends house), you should turn them in the first business day after he does them and ask that he is found in contempt of court. The clerk of court should be able to tell you if there are forms you can use for that or how to proceed in filing on your own. You could also show them to the police while there is an active order. That’s all I can think of off hand.

  • http://www.sheboyganspirit.com/home/blog/ SheboyganSpirit

    Count me in on adult victims – FBI and DOJ only care about children, law enforcement is useless, even though there are laws on the books, and asking the person to stop is like beating your head against a brick wall. I’ve been enduring this nightmare for over 6 years now and would like to connect with other victims, and will post others stories if they’d like.

    • sheboygan

      FYI: The police don’t respond to SheboyganSpirit because she is a pathological liar and false accuser.

    • Honeytxn

      I have a person who started out as my neighbor. We’ve moved and she continues to harass us using various Social Media. We have had countless videos, pictures, web pages and postings deleted but each time she gets a little more crafty and it is getting harder and harder to get them removed.

  • Rachel Wright

    Thank you for posting this as I am being written about on a daily basis on another person’s blog after ending an online “friendship” with them. It is unending. I need to know what more to do from here.

  • http://www.sheboyganspirit.com/home/blog/ SheboyganSpirit

    I wish I knew just what to do -have tried everything I could think of but now think if we pull together and brainstorm or just support each other, there must be some way to have our voices and concerns heard and heeded, too! Anyone can contact me via my link – and if you wish, share your story with me and I will post it on my blog.

  • Helen Atie

    what about gang cyberbullying, when its a group stalking and trolling one everyday

  • http://twitter.com/Lisa_D_Pearl Lisa Doreen Pearl

    Adults cannot count on law enforcement on any level for protection if their tormentor is a retired Deputy Chief of a DOD agency. My bully is sending me emails from Maryland threatening to file a false report. I took the email to my local Georgia advocate to get an injunction against harassment, NOTHING! If I were a child or a lighter race maybe I wouldn’t have to live in fear of this psyco. By the way this psyco is my father and the reason I left home for good 30 years ago when I was only 13.

  • stefanie

    I am dealing with a heavy blow of awful bullying on a few facebook pages. These people have never met me and are saying awful and horrible things than they have more and more people jumping on me when noone even knows me :( Idk what to do. I deactivated my fb but ims cared its ruining my life. Im an adult doesnt make it any less hurtful

  • kd1

    I am an adult victim of cyberbullying by my husband’s ex-wife of 25 years and his 30 year old daughter. She has an unflattering picture of me posted on her Facebook and many, many derogatory comments made by her and her so called friends. Like Sheboygan says the law enforcement could care less. I have tried. I guess she has to kill me before anyone listens then it’s too late! I bet if I were the one doing it I would be in jail. She is the worst stalker, sociopath I have ever known. It scares me that she exists and blends in so easly in the world.

    • defamedInnocent

      the crux of human existence is EVIL…..and now it is being empowered by social networking

  • EvyEve4

    Since 2010 my daughter (she is 22 years old now) has been harassed, bullied and threatened on facebook by my ex husband’s current wife. I along with my 16 year old son has been harassed by her as well ….. As recent as this weekend. Police say they can’t do anything about it because there is no proof that it is the current wife doing this. What she is doing is making up fake facebook pages (this weekend she made one of my exhusband.). She then request my son accept her as a friend, and because he thought this was his father, he accepted. Then she began a tirade of abuse.

    WHAT CAN BE DONE TO PROVE SHE IS BEHIND THIS?

  • texaschic

    I have a person who has used YouTube and Facebook to harass me and I effectively had the information removed, however, each time they get a little smarter and find the loop holes and it takes longer to get the content removed. Now they are using Google+. I have effectively had two of their profiles removed but one remains and has for months. Why wont Google respond, especially when there is proof that the person has created several other similar profiles that have all ready been removed?

  • texaschic

    There should be a way to submit a complaint and supply documentation that shows the history. When you can only report the one incident or have to go to each site it makes it very time consuming and delays action. IF the person is using multi Google products then Google should have a way to report multi profiles and social media sites in one place. They allow you to supply multi links in a report but not the documentation supporting the history of any previous sites/profiles that have all ready been removed. Very frustrating.

  • Daretoexpose

    I am being cyber stalked and cyber bullied by government employee at ip address 224.0.0.22 and 224.0.0.252, for the past eleven years, no one will do anything. Now the they are using my email accounts to send spam so that my accounts are being delete for sending spam.t is obvious they have access to my account. When the FBI will do nothing, who else can I contact with my evidence of cyber crimes.

  • Judi

    I have been harassed and stalked by my boyfriends ex who also was my best friend, which ended when she used him to cosign for a car..then she dumped him//8 months later after a 3.4 year friendship he and I started a relationship…she didn’t like it..TOld him “anyone but her” and a bunch of crap..Since then she has repeatedly lied to me about her and him, and the latest is the worst…She has set up a fake FB page using his last name and we thought she was a relative so we friended her..I saw who it was, she actually put up a pic of a look alike guy in the bunk of her semi with her and said she was MARRIED…in a few days my relationship status was gone off my wal, and all the poems I wrote on his were deleted and gone, and I was unable to tag him or post on his wall..she has effectively deleted him from my existence..He thinks we should ignore it, he has no repect for FB and is non-confronational…She also calls him 50 times a day and he doen’t answer..she finds stuff out hat he is doing at his house and posts it on her FAKE one….I used to think it was just me she wanted out of the way and he still does think it is spite..but I have revised my thinking..I think it is him she is stalking ..and looking for attention from him by making me mad…I need to know how to get rid of her..Facebook is no help, But in his refusal to acknowledge this crap my boyfriend refuses to report her..

  • Judi

    Hard to act in the right way when it goes unacknowledged by FB…I feel as though I have been stripped of any rights, I am depressed and feel humiliated, but have no recourse..I agree she should face a penalty, but how??

  • ANON

    There are no Laws. All lies.

  • ANON

    8 years online and offline here.

  • Katie

    I have had people make multiple false profiles on facebook of myself. Everytime i report it to facebook, it is deleted. This is a relief, but brings you back down when another facebook profile, calling my a sl*t and a fat who*re, with pictures of myself and my family are made the very same day.

    I have had 8 fake facebook profiles made of me in total now, and it is relentless. I have been to the police and made 5 statements, and they told me there is nothing they can do unless the cyberbullyng is in a workplace or a school. If it is just someone you know, they say “contact facebook”

    I do not know what to do anymore, or how to escape this. It is ruining my life. I feel suicidal on a daily basis, and I don’t know how much more I can take of this anymore.

    I wish i had never met them, nor ever had facebook, where they got all my photos from. This has been going on for almost two years. This person is 30 years old, and very smart. He has found out all my parents details are rang them over 1000 times. (Their number is now changed)

    Social networking is the worst thing ever invented. It gives anyone alot of power to do anything they want. I am in the process of having to change my identity to escape this, as the internet is now littered with crap about me, making it extremely hard for me to live a normal life, find a job etc.

  • Unhappy in cleveland

    Mocospace is notorious for allowing bulling to continue. They set up rules but do not enforce them. It is very sad. Many good people have left because of abuse, defamation of character and down right bulling.

  • Kate

    Guys…I would like to ask you some questions…I know that this is very hard but I’m going through the same thing too…Do you have problems at getting a job?. How is your daily life like?. Is it possible to live with a situation like this?

  • mari

    what about when a former supervisor creates a smear campaign, after an employee bullied out of workplace leaves for health reasons, mainly due to the abuse the employee reported, then was retaliated against. Employee is ill and jobless, with no cause (zero infractions and only outstanding work performance), yet workplace HR and mgmt side with the bully… Bully supervisor, in posession of all employee’s data, including SSN, impersonates the ill, ousted employee, and her husband, in over 25 online smear profiles/posts… then accuses the now former-employee of being violent and delusional with no cause, as supervisor creates even sex solicitation profiles, fake email accts and duplicates employee on social media sites ie: myspace, classmates, and represents self as employee in the worst of negative light…. When employer won’t believe it and actually helps supervisor (abusive) get rid of employee, calling employee “crazy” and believing falsehood from abuser that a lawsuit is coming their way…
    What can the now nonfunctional and badly suffering ousted worker do? (ptsd & multitude of physical health damage from sustained stress). if there is so much loss and healing that cannot even begin because the formerly outstanding worker is still under constant attack, now online, sustaining permanent global damage, smeared irreparably and terrified, what can this employee do?

    • http://www.facebook.com/pages/Cyber-Bullying-Begin-investigation-for-FBI/225556324194816 meta kane

      I think death by suicide or live homeless is the only answer. Similar has happened to myself. My life is ruined. I am at the point of not caring at all.

  • Iona

    Hi, I am researching cyber bullying in adults, it would be great if you could fill out this questionnaire which may change the way adult victims are treated and supported!

  • FBcyberbullyingvictim

    I am an adult victim of bullying on Facebook and have faced threats, defamation, and false criminal allegations based on imagination alone and for the purpose of scaring me. I had difficulty sleeping for 4 weeks and the anger that came out of what I felt and expressing it on Facebook drove a bunch of friends away. The bully appears to be a psychopath, which is a person who has the ability to convince people of anything. She basically destroyed my reputation, caused me a lot of mental anguish, and drove my friends away as a result of a conflict that she generated. I should have just walked away because by fighting back, I allowed her to destroy my relationships and win. Karma will get her in due time.

    • Belinda Janae

      We Are Having The Same Problem In Butler,PA On Facebook.

    • Belinda Janae

      He Goes By Butler Trash But His Real Name Is Justin Castilyn. =(

  • Mary

    I have been having a strange bout of cyber bullying from a former friend who for no reason I can think turned nasty. She began saying sick things about me like I had been abused by my father as a kid and turned a lot of our friends against me. I am currently seeking police advice and have removed my twitter account ratcheted up security on my Facebook and have all spyware up to date as she was even openly saying she was tracing my ip address. I know some people think closing accounts and moving on is cowardly or cutting and running but it seemed the most quick and efficient way of handling it. I did a few classic stupid things like retaliate and argue but soon realised this would facilitate the problem. A lot of people think if they argue back they are defending their corner, don’t you can’t apply logic to what is often illogical. It’s important to know beforehand how your social network features work, how you block and secure your info before you even begin friending people.

  • WoudRatherNotSay

    What can you do when people have damaged you reputation based solely on lies they have perpetrated against you? I was in the teen entertainment news industry. I was an adult news reporter that focused on that area of entertainment because I loved networks like Disney and I blogging. Based on may age of being 40 a group of parents that I don’t know who they are tagged me as a Pedo and spread that around to various important people in the industry and these important people won’t deal with me now because these otherpeople have created a false reputation for me.

    Their claims were investigated by my local police dept and found not credible but the people in this business now will not touch me because of the hint of any sort of stuff like this. They believed it without question or contacting me to find out if what was being said was true. I have no criminal record at all. One ticket for driving on an expired license but was waved after taking care of the vehicle registration

    The problem is they are not doing this publicly but behind the scenes and I have been told about it from some sources that actually feel bad for me or otherwise I wouldn’t even know what was going on.

    How can I sue or do anything without any sort of concrete proof that they are slandering me behind closed doors. I do not know exactly what is being said and it probably gets worse the further it goes.

    How do you stop something like this? How can you defend you right to innocent until proven guilty with something like this?

  • Desperate

    I am being bullyed badly by a woman in a chat room…I can not complain course her boyfriend runs the dating site and he is the admin in the chat room and also joins in..He told me my photo shouldn’t be there course i was to ugly…She’s says Things like fat f**k, f**ken fatso, f**ken ugly, idiot, your stupid, and there more the list goes on…The chat room is great until she comes in then all her friend who talk to me normal before she arrives start on me…I suffer from Bi-Pola and i am on the edge and can understand why people commit suicide after being bullyed…I haven’t kept any conversations, for one he made sure i didn’t, looking back now and two i didn’t know i had too..But all chat room conversations are kept….Didn’t think i could do anything course her boyfriend runs the site…If i complain or say anything i was told my profile would be deleted, that’s not fair…PLEASE help what can i do apart from leaving which is what they are trying to make me do i think so they win….I suppose that’s all i can do but she will continue doing to others like she is now unless she is stopped…You should see the way they treat new chatter omg its so bad and if you don’t break to there will or if they say anything back, he will delete their profiles, which i have witnessed a many a times..he also listens in, in the private chat room….He also shares private and personal info of people who have sign up to all or whoever is in the chat room at the time, which im pretty sure is against the law?????

  • Tiredofthelies

    This piece of crap has been cyber harrassing me and my family for years….myspace.com/wildflowerbynature

  • http://www.facebook.com/georgetta.wilson Georgetta Carroll Wilson

    After my post here months ago…..i tried to take my own life. Now i have just given up. We dont just need a place that we can vent, we need someone (lawyer) who is willing to help us take legal action to force social media to ACTUALLY step up and do something about the bullying they allow to occur. It is near impossible to get hold of a real person at facebook who might actually listen to what you have to say. Their answer “Report Button” is not available in some avenues or when they have you blocked but are spreading vicious lies about you. You cant hit a report button for that. I am just done and have accepted that i have to suffer alone.

    • Norma Campbell

      Its a shame there are people who enjoy being cruel and nasty to others. I am a senior citizen and have been bullied, and tormented on Topix Message Board. This person sought out personal info about a family tragedy, and constantly was posting hurtful and ugly comments, about me and my family. He hides behind an anonymous name, yet was posting my real name, and names of family members. I sympathize with you…but don’t ever let some ne’r do well make you consider taking your life. The person doing you wrong is not worth it. Take care.

    • Steve Johnson’s victim

      I too am at my wits end. I have gone to the police three times. They say they cannot do anything about it because it is an internet thing. Ridiculous! I have lost my business, my house, my son now lives with his grandparents because I fear for his life also. My ex boyfriend has been doing this for two years. The internet is perfect for criminals. Crimes they can get way with. Something needs to be done and soon!

  • Astonished

    I am trying to find an adult forum in which to discuss current issues. I was cyber-bullied on our local news format. I either ignored them, or defended myself. I was told to shut up, go away, and finally one man told me to kill myself because he described my responses as too long. I contacted the local TV station who hosts the comments of our local community, but doubt I will hear back. Then I found this site and thought it might be different especially when it came to cyber-bullying. Boy Howdy, was I wrong. This site has as many unadult screamers on it, actually claiming Native Americans are not real. Disagreeing with someone on a subject is fine, but to put them down, threaten a person who doesn’t agree with you should be a crime. I refuse to use Facebook because of the problems one of your commenters made. I guess I won’t come back to this site either. I guess some uneducated, unmannered, and threatening folks are everywhere and that is a really sad statement. As long as they don’t have to say it to your face they become nastier than ever. Good luck to the good commenters and I would quit if these adult responses are extremely abusive. To the cyber-bullies, shame on you and with your foolish and hurtful responses.

  • meerkat13

    This is stupid superstitious spam on a site with a serious purpose. Stop it, please.

  • Mike Dave

    Our family posted our own web site with name etc. We told the truth with our own web site. We described the series of events etc. You can control your own web site. We didn’t put up their name but added location and our story. They stopped. We personally opened up a court case and filed subpena’s to get IP addresses and track them. You can even start a small claims case and submit subpena’s to the site owners by tracking them down through their hosting companies. 1st submit subpena to hosting company to get their location or use ‘who is domain tools,’ Then, if abuse report to google. Yes, Google has terms and conditions for uses of their interview services ! You cannot do what ever you won’t on google.

    • Dave Mike

      Sorry: Here’s what you do in better format. You can issue subpeana to hosting company legal depts by eMail. You don’t have to personally serve as they get so many. Usually, within 24-4 hours they will eMail you back with location, address, name of website owner. You then, issue via eMail a subpoena to web site owner and ask them for the IP of the person who posted the bad stuff. If they person posted a lot – you can go to court and get a restraining order under Federal and State Cyber harassment laws. Just as you would a restraining order against an person who physically abuses you. But, you need to keep all evidence, series of events printed out in EXHIBITS and series of events with numbering your exhibits. Keep it all in a file, in order of events. Also, scan everything on a flash drive or DVD to give series of events to attorneys. So you don’t have to turn over your originals to attorneys or keep making copies of everything. We shut our stalker down and now Fed’s going after.

  • Mike Dave

    Actually, freedom of speech does not include harming people. When you harm someone with your freedom of speech and it’s all wrong information – that falls under: slander, harassment, bullying, abuse. Then, you can (even) get a small case started on your own – without an attorney. It’s actually pretty simply. You can find Pleading paper to submit your case in word doc. Once you learn the basics, anyone can do an attorneys job. You can Google legal codes under slander, harassment etc and read the legalities on it. We had to take control of our own lives (with no help from attorneys due to broke) to go after our stalker. Now the tables are turned on the stalker. Took 3 years. But, don’t allow anyone to trash your backyard. Don’t lower yourself to their tactics. Get even, our way and do it right and scare the living daylights out of them. When, the know they can’t hide any more. They will cry like babies.