Advice for Adult Victims of Cyberbullying

Advice for Adult Victims of Cyberbullying

Cyberbullying affects all age groups, including adults. Learn about different strategies and get help for adult victims of cyberbullying.

We get a lot of emails, phone calls, and comments on this blog from adults who are being bullied though technology. These adult victims of cyberbullying stress to us that cyberbullying is not just an adolescent problem.  Believe me, we know.  We receive more inquiries from adults than teens.  We know that cyberbullying negatively affects adults too.  It’s just that we spend the majority of our efforts studying how this problem impacts school-aged youth due to their tenuous developmental stage.  That said, I thought I would take some time here to give the adults who have been victimized out there some general advice.

First, it is important to keep all evidence of the bullying: messages, posts, comments, etc.  If there are ways you can determine who exactly is making the comments, also document that.  Second, contact the service or content provider through which the bullying is occurring.  For example, if you are being cyberbullied on Facebook, contact them.  If you are receiving hurtful or threatening cell phone messages, contact your cell phone company to obtain assistance.  Along those same lines, familiarize yourself with the Terms of Use for the various sites you frequent, and the online accounts you sign up for.  Many web sites expressly prohibit harassment and if you report it through their established mechanisms, the content and/or bully should be removed from the site in a timely manner.  To be sure, some web site administrators are better and quicker at this than others.

Also, please be careful not to retaliate – or do anything that might be perceived by an outsider to have contributed to the problem.  Do not respond to the cyberbully except to calmly tell them to stop.  If they refuse, you may have to take additional actions.  If you are ever afraid for your safety, you need to contact law enforcement to investigate.  They can determine whether any threats made are credible.  If they are, the police will formally look into it.  The evidence that you have collected will help them to evaluate your situation.

You should also take the time to check your state laws.  We have discussed some of these laws on this blog and have a summary of many applicable laws here.  In Wisconsin, for example, it is a misdemeanor if someone uses computerized communication systems to “frighten, intimidate, threaten, abuse, or harass another person.”  It is also against the law to “harass annoy, or offend another person.”  See what the laws in your state are to determine if the police should get involved.

If the threats or comments are detrimental to your health, safety, or occupation, you might want to consult with an attorney who specializes in harassment, defamation of character, false light, intentional infliction of emotional distress, or similar types of civil action.  A letter sent from an attorney (on law firm letterhead) to the bully may be all that is necessary to get the bullying to stop.  The problem with this approach is that it can be costly.  I have spoken to some victims who have consulted with attorneys who want a significant sum of money to get involved, even at a basic level.  I can only imagine how frustrating this is after experiencing emotional and psychological suffering – and then realizing that you can’t afford to get legal help.  Another problem associated with pursuing a bully through civil action is that, even if you are successful and a judge or jury rules in your favor, it can be difficult to determine an appropriate damage amount.  I served as an expert witness in a cyberbullying case in the summer of 2008.  In that case, the adult victims were being bullied in an AOL chat room.  Everyone agreed that what the bully was doing was wrong, but to what were the victims entitled?  They had some modest medical bills and could be reimbursed for costs associated with their AOL account – but these losses added up to less than $1,000.  And while I don’t know the actual amount, I am sure their legal bills were in the tens of thousands of dollars.  They ended up settling for a very small amount – just to make a statement to the bully.  Most of us can’t afford to take those actions on principle alone.

In sum, it can be difficult to hold bullies accountable for their actions (for both adolescents and adults).  In a country such as ours that values free speech so highly, many people genuinely believe they can say whatever they want, to whomever they want.  We know that is not true, but it isn’t clear where exactly the line is.  And just because we *can* say certain things, doesn’t mean we should.  It’s no wonder that many teens are wrestling with this problem—they see the adults in their lives saying mean and nasty things to others on a regular basis.  Do your part to model appropriate behavior and address any hurtful language when it comes up.  The kids (and other adults) in your life will hopefully see it, remember it, and act in the right ways.

We hope this article provides useful information for adult victims of cyberbullying or online harassment. If you want to share your cyberbullying story with us, you can do so on this page.


  1. Filing charges is a waste of time especially in California, where liberals value "freedom of speech". We took someone to Federal court and lost, it cost us a lot of money. The defendant represented themselves pro se. Our Attorney, (one of those new Internet Law Centers that has popped up) lied and told us we had a great chance in stopping the person.

    In fact, this attorney was the only one that benefited.

    He ended up being a bigger liar than the person that was harassing us.

  2. Aol does nothing towards cyber bullying. Aol C.A.T. techs have told me time and time again" oh, they will never be on AOl again, after, 12, hours, 34 hours or 48 hours. Yes Ms. Rowe we are sorry for this and they will be removed. AOL has yet to do anything.

    I had a screen name say in a chat room since they neared me that they would come to my house and shoot me in the face with a shotgun. This was reported to AOL by me and several others and still nothing happened.

    there was the case of a pregnant woman that met a woman on AOL chats. Well the woman on AOL chats befriended the other woman and cut her baby out of her. Police needed info, took AOL 2 weeks to give the police any info.

    AOL does what it wants.

  3. Yes, We can’t afford to get legal help. Another problem associated with pursuing a bully through civil action is that, even if we are successful and a judge or jury rules in our favor, it can be difficult to determine an appropriate damage amount.


  4. my bf stopped talking to me when she lured him with booz, sweettalked him, flirted with him, committed adultery (cheated on her bf by hitting on my man) and then bam MY BF dumped me and chatts her up all the time hoping her bf will leave her for him. she posted her personal website and accused me of stalking when i tried to shoo her away from my man! she encouraged him to speed and she seriously needs rehab for abuse of alcohol (in college isn't such parties not legal?) and encouraged him to to ditch the one he loves and turn to speeding over the limit in Virginia. i was looking out for him and tried to talk to him, but she blackmailed me and has psychologically warped his mind into thinking i'm some creep! she called me psycho and i said nothing to her until she slandered me! she has alienated me from my boyfriend who slept with me for almost a year and if i am pregnant, i'll have no choice, but to sue since he made promises and wouldn't keep them, because this cheap woman got between us! if she keeps it up, i shall bring charges on her and sadly on my exbf who chose her cheating behind over me! i could report her to her college for cyberbullying and those illegal keg-parties she's holding. she also convinced him to take back gifts he was going to give me. she is evil! i am about ready to tell her boss and college and get her tossed out of school!

  5. We are being bullied, harrassed, and slandered online by a woman that we once volunteered for her dog rescue organization. It did result in her being "banned" from a forum that we both are members of, but it doesn't stop her from sending us emails and also emailing others and defaming and slandering us. Reading through this, the only thing that seems we can do is pay for an attorney? Doesn't seem right that someone can act like a crazy person and lie, yet we are the ones that have to spend hard earned money to get it to stop.

  6. I am an adult who was cyber bullied. I felt helpless against it. The sad thing is the bullying is happening to me not directly but indirectly there's an e-mail address that was created I believe in 2005 using my name by someone or a group of people my REAL WORLD EX Girlfriend knows from Myspace. This persons or persons is writing very hurtful things to my Ex Girlfriend and is also writing to her Cyber friends and complaining and asking why I don't have any friends. Although at that time I tried to tell my REAL WORLD EX Girlfriend that it wasn't me she CHOOSE to believe her Cyber Friends. She is convinced that I am the one sending those e-mails even though the letters are out of character she seems to think that I'm wanting people to feel sorry for me and it's all an act. Its really sad for her because sheiks the one who is feeding off the Cyber bullying she's also writing to this Imposter and telling it things about me that know one knows or should I say that know one knew until she started responding to it. I'm sure after 5 yes it's still happening because she could never leave things alone. I'm not sure if it's still happening but if it is it is very sad

  7. I have been bullied on a game app on Facebook,I contacted their admins and they did nothing about it.That same person still plays on the same game app as I do.Then I find out from friends on Facebook they are getting harassed and bullied also on that same app by other people.The admin sits there and see's it and does nothing.I went to search Facebook's help about who to report the harassing and bullying and it says to contact the person who owns the app.I tried to send the owner of that app a message and it wouldn't go through.I don't understand how Facebook can post telling people to contact that owner of the app when that app is on Facebook.

    I am wondering who should I contact? I am so fed up with that apps admins allowing people to harass and bully and seeing them get away with it.Yet they have rules that only seems to allow certain people to get away with things like that.Why do they even bother having rules.

  8. i am being targeted at a place called yahoo answers people are posting rude questions about this a form of cyber bullying?

  9. Yes this is a form of Cyber Bullying DO NOT RESPOND to the comments! Delete your yahoo account and stay away for awhile. Get a new account but DO NOT contact these Trolls again Trolls are People or a group of people who like to cause DRAMA for those they don't like

  10. AOL is bad. I have been harassed, background reports of me pulled up and used. to make a long story of hell short, I called AOL and reported all this. Time and Time again i was told. " Oh they (my harassers) will be deleted and removed from AOL. I have a witnes to this. But to no avail. AOL disregards it's TOS statement. I even had one screen-name say they will come to my house and shoot me in the face with a shotgun. AOL did nothing. This person who stated that lived only 2 hours from me.

  11. I have been harrassed by several people in my town, over slander picture taken 25 years ago.

    I have seen them strangers pass the picture over their phones. Hosw can I search ahave those pictures removed. This have go all over two towns in five years. I have email facebook, myspace, and googles, youtube and craiglist over and over . They have done thing about this. Those wo know will not give me the url site. What steps can i do now.

  12. There's nothing you can do once your picture goes on the Internet it can never be removed! That goes for written and video posts as well.

  13. How to I find the url on the harrassing website. Is there a company that can help find harrassing

    email addresses. The internet sites and phone sites will not help.

  14. We need to start an organization that deals with cyber bullying of adults on social networks.

    Let's start with Facebook, that is one of the most notorious 'ignorers' to help.

    • I'm in total agreement with you. My little stalker started on Facebook with a fake profile – "Amy Ivanovna – Whispers From Amy" and I am successfully taking her out by exposing her. Facebook has finally closed down 3 of her 4 pages and she's on legal notice from me as well. Bless her little heart – she inspired me to start a blog to assist ALL people – – pass it on because it not only will help someone else, but it also helps to stop her from moving on to someone else. A lot of people have come forward and told me what she's been doing to them – and it needs to stop everywhere!

  15. One common form of Adult Cyber-Bullying is directed towards "actors" on REALITY television. Many people believe that reality tv is real – but the truth is, it's NOT. These actors are getting paid to appear on the show and then are coached by the producers to enhance the drama of their episodes.

    The worst part is the open talk forums/blogs in which the television network's vehemently ALLOW the viewers to openly and ANONYMOUSLY voice their opinions and comments about any particular actor. The bloggers' rights are protected under the first amendment – but what about their victims? I personally know someone who was a victim of Adult Cyber-bullying in relation to appearing on a popular reality show. She was degraded, humiliated and demeaned in the possible way. When she REPEATEDLY contacted the network and requested to monitor and take down the hateful blogs, she was told not to read the blogs if it was painful to read. HOW DARE THEY!!!!

    I call into lobbying the need for a disclaimer for these reality shows. Just a simple "For Entertainment Purposes Only" would be both helpful and educational for the viewers. Also, blog monitoring is a MUST. Any suggestions on how we can go about doing this?

  16. There is already an organization that deals exclusively with Adult Cyber-bullying.

    I found them through extensive research [ because I was ready to start just exactly such lobbying effort myself].

    And – it is not just for Celebrities [no matter how well known or not so well known], it is for EVERY Adult, private people as well as companies, businesses etc.

    There are also sections [on both websites] on what to do. Well worth the read.

  17. I recently became a victim of cyber harassment. A labor dispute occurred and I decided to do some research to find out both sides. In the process I found an inappropriate remark made about me at the website. Stupidly, I posted a comment in my defense. That got it started. Now some of the women at my workplace are anonymously posting horrible, untrue comments about me at These people don’t even know me or know anything about me. I have never done anything to them so I do not understand why they have chosen to harass me? I have contacted the website several times and they will not reply to my emails and they will not remove the harassing posts. I have a really good job and I enjoy what I do. These women are trying to do damage to my career. I only responded one time and I have not responded since. I have tried my best to ignore it. However, the comments keep getting posted. I feel helpless. I do not have the money to pursue legal action and since the harassment is anonymous, there is nothing my company can do to help me.

  18. What if the cyber bully lives in Canada? I live in MO, but a man I met online who lives in Canada started cyber bullying me–attacking me on MyYearbook, posting lies about me, defaming me, and he even went so far to create a fake profile, which MyYearbook didn't do much about, except to remove my photos.

    • I went through and still going through that!! I have been lied on and defamed by this guy I once was seeing from the internet. Did contact a cyber bully website one time, they told me to hire a lawyer which i can't afford. It's so upseting to know a cyber bully and their friends can try and make your life Hell for there amusement, there crazy and sick!! I try to ignore the lies and keep my head up but sometimes it's so hard not to flat out have hate in my heart for them!! This has been going on for 6 yrs now will it ever stop?

      • Oh my God, I so feel your pain. Though my experience with this annoying whiney bitchy person, isn't as bad as yours.

        Three months ago I was friends with this person from California. We became pretty close to one another and would send artwork back and forth to eachother.

        She was extremely immature to say in the least, and she showed her true colors when I tried telling her she could not come to Illinois and have me host her. So she ignored me for two weeks and it made me wonder if the friendship with her was over with. She created a pity party for herself and this included a rather pathetic video of which she linked me to on the DeviantArt art site.

        I opened up to this girl and told her my feelings and she dismissed them and focused on her own. She then got ugly with me so I defended myself. After the colorful emails with the flowery language, We ended the friendship.

        Later on, I found out that she had made hateful representations of me "hate-art" on deviantArt the art site on which she and I unfortunately met. And her friends tried to link me the drawings to which I ignored and laughed at with my friends. Thus they continued to provoke me and I just blocked them afterwards.

        I never thought as a 22 year old, I'd have someone so bitter, hateful, someone so confused, for me to naively friend them to later on have this person be so butt hurt by something so trivial as to not being able to visit me. And try to hurt me through my medium, which is art.

        Looking back on it now, I laugh at the stupidity of the drawings that reflects this person's state of mind and really, I do pity this person and the people they turned against me.

        And really these people need to be pitied. They basically hate their own lives and wish to make your's and mine like hell, for their amusement and to make themselves feel better about their own shitty lives. (Living in California, she ain't doing to well financially)

        6 years is pretty long time to be cyberharassed!

        My question is, do you reply to this person? If you're replying, then that is probably why he is so relentless on harassing you. This dude sounds like a troll and you're his LULZcow. Trolls stop when they can't get a rise out of you any longer.

        My advice though it is hard, is to continue to ignore him, his lame friends, the comments and lies he creates. And the people that are your friends, if they are your friends then they wouldn't believe him. If they believe him, then they weren't ever your friends to begin with.

        Yes it will eventually stop, though it feels like it won't, this idiot will eventually move on once he gets bored harassing you.

        • @SometimesIhateuall

          "I try to ignore the lies and keep my head up but sometimes it's so hard not to flat out have hate in my heart for them!!"

          Man, I know the feeling. I felt so much hatred towards this bitter bitch it wasn't funny. Even did my own drawings where I had my characters eat her and her friends. (though unlike her, I didn't post them up on the frackin' internet like a hurt little child). I wanted to soooo doggone badly though!
          But then that'd be stooping to the level of my enemy, and I'd be no better.

          I know as humans we have this "eye for an eye" mentality, but this honestly doesn't solve anything.

          i wanted revenge very badly against that girl and my sexually confused former friends. (whom she turned them on me).
          (They believed her, therefore they never were my friends to begin with)!

          But as a Christian girl, I knew it wasn't right, though deep in the confines of my heart, I yearned so much for vengeance and retribution.

          I even reported her when she and her friends were harassing me through not only art, but notes, and Emails to the Deviant Art Help Desk, and they did jack-squat. They didn't even take down the kindergartner "butt-hurt" art which was more what I wanted them to do than to get her banned from Deviant Art.

          That inferior hateful artwork is still up on that site, and it angers me how websites allow shit like this and worse ( in your case), to continue!

          I get reminded how that website that I loved so much, allowed this injustice on their site and nothing was done when it was reported. By numerous people! Every time I log on to DA I even have one last unread note by one of her friends who tried to diagnose me as someone who has autism or Aspergers syndrome.

          God, these people need serious mental help.

          But hang in there man, these people will eventually reap what they sow.

          Romans 12:19-21
          Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it unto the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay," says the Lord. To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head. Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."

          Basically God or Karma (whatever you believe in) will repay these people in the end. Maybe not as soon as you and I want it, but they will get it pretty bad in the future.

  19. Stated by an Administrator at Florida middle school, “It’s pretty difficult to figure out what to do. The law seems so complex. I just know that we have got to do something, because cyberbullying is leading to other problems on my campus and under my watch.” As a student I always wondered what goes through the minds of administrators of the schools dealing with cyberbullying. They are the ones dealing with the most, because finding a way to stop and avoid it is their responsible. Well to my knowledge that is whom I would figure responsible. Sometimes the administrators or the workers such as the teachers are becoming targets just as well as the students. Children and Teens are making websites talking about their teacher and cannot be punished. One boy did just this and was suspended for ten days; he later fought to sue the district for a large amount of money, because his right to free speech was violated. Now this is something no administrator or district wants to go through. So they dropped his suspension from his records, paid him $30,000 to drop the lawsuit and wrote a letter apologizing. All I could say and think was wow, because I still believe the kid was in the wrong rather done at home or school. But at the end he’s not the one to suffer, the people trying to get rid of the behavior are. This also reminds me of pictures my old classmates use to post on MySpace and Face book of our teachers. Along with tagging all of us in it so we could see how they changed it around and wrote bad things on it. I’m not saying its right, but what can be done to stop things like this from happening?

  20. I need help. I am being bullied and harassed on an online scrapbook forum. I have reported the episodes to the local police department, however, the company is based in another state. I have contacted that states attorney generals office and filed a complaint there and I have contacted the powers that be of the company and they have removed the harassing posts from the boards, but state although their on terms of use say you can not harass or bully another person (in better wording, lol), they state it is up to them to determine if and when a person should be removed from the boards. Its a clear violation of their terms of use and it isn't the first time I have reported these people as well as others reporting them. If the companies let bullys get away with what they are doing, how do we fight that? I am so depressed and devestated by the insinuations that are being made about me and it has damaged me as far as being able to sell my no longer wanted craft supplies on that board. I am so angry over this and yet I can't get any help at all.

  21. RT – contact your town congressman, state governor, and President Obama regarding this matter. Write a letter to them or simply copy and paste what you just wrote and send it to them. I am constantly writing letters to them so that they hear our pleas for help. We need blog monitoring and tougher laws on cyber-bullying.

  22. If your going to wipe out cyber harassment, maybe you should just start with the problem and not the age,

    You tell parents how to control a teen online, but it's deeper thant that. you tell only the ways to "STOP BULLYING" but really you not.

  23. Cyberbullying in the workplace has become a area of concentration of study. Although most studies of cyberbullying have been done with children and teenagers it is clear that bullying among adults has become an issue. There have been studies which cite that the most forms of modern technology which adults in the workplace tend to use for cyberbullying are the phone. However, I am curious to know if that remains the truth as email has become part of our everyday lives. It is important to remember that a person of any age can be a victim of cyberbullying and it can be traumatizing for its victims.



  26. AOL does nothing to stop cyber bullying.

    I have contacted AOL for over the past year on one person who repeatedly hacks people's computers and post racist tirades in the chat room.. I have emailed, called, Talked to AOL via live help and all you can get is the billing Dept. Every once in a while you can get the Tech support and only one person from that dept has even made a noticeable effort ( Rowen) When he came into the room though, the bully had left.

    So do not count on AOL to do anything of substance in spite of their (notify AOL feature) which is a big joke. It seems to me that after a year of complaints, they will catch onto the fact that there is a problem.

    • I totally understand. I had someone who repeatedly hacked into my AOL mail.. and AOL would NOT do a thing about it. The best part is IF You have GMAIL, there is a link on the bottom of the screen that will tell you the IP address from the last places your account was accessed from. If Gmail can give you this information why cant AOL? I had to delete al my AOL email addreses and go with Gmail.

    • Michael, I’ve found AOL’s help in dealing with PC bullies or haters to be a joke also. They do absolutely nothing to control the bullying or hating. If anything a friend of mine received a TOS from AOL for reporting one of the bullies.

  27. Right now, I have two different trolls ruining blog-sites by creating false-comments and attacking other sensible-bloggers like myself in their attempt to over-throw the blog-topic. The names they are going by today on WordPress are “John” who is a she and an identity thief, and “Janel” who stole my name several months ago. I love your sites and simply do not want to see them disrupted by their trolling. What they do is to Google my name (JanCorey) and see where I have placed comments, then “they” John blasts the site with his rants. He teams up with some of her Troll-buds, exchange links and saturate the link I visit and comment upon with similar-attacking-comments directed against those they are collectively jealous of. Trolls, while operating from a single pc or IP-address like he/she does, using many different names, sometimes changing avatars, sometimes not and using the WordPress names of “John/Janel White/Janel Corey/JanelCorey White/venicegirl13/veniceborn/Venice/ venicehippiechick/ect, ect” while they continue their rants until “John” is formally sanctioned or imprisoned by the Courts. “John” has typical troll-tactics where after “he” finds a site I have left a comment on, “he” solicits his other troll-buddies by e-mail to gain support so they can all conversely enter the same site to back up one another to appear their bullying tactics must have some merit to an uninformed viewer and BlogOwner trying to get me banned or minimized in my commentary. Trying to present a true factual argument is of no use as they will bash the site and with their troll-force which clogs up the site and sometimes shuts the site down completely When you see “his/her” comments Cyberstalking, you’ll know in a second which post is “his,” and which are from legitimize guest-cementers to your site. Would appreciate any advise before I may have to take more serious steps in order to confront and stop John’s/Janel’s bullying. Thanks much.

  28. My mother's ex-husband, Richard Dugger, has been harassing me online for the last three years and I fully agree that something needs to be done. From accusations of std's to making a page in my name on myspace, to sending ridiculous emails. He won't stop, ever. And why does he do it? Because he's angry with my mother and I for leaving. Many people know he's a sick man, but they're all too intimidated by him. I've gone to the police about his online activity – nothing. He could easily be put away for the rest of his life but nobody seems to listen. Online.. offline, something needs to be done NOW. It has to be taken seriously or they will never, ever stop. I will write to whomever I can because it can't go on. To those who made this website possible and for everything that you do, many thanks.

  29. Im being harassed on Twitter.. There are 4 fake Twitters with my picture being used. I dont want any money.. or anything like that I just want it stopped… Twitter says its a parody and thats okay. No.. its not. not when horrible things are being said about me. I had ONE taken down because they were using my name, picture and almost an identical user name. Im totally at a loss.

  30. Im being harassed on Twitter.. There are 4 fake Twitters with my picture being used. I dont want any money.. or anything like that I just want it stopped… Twitter says its a parody and thats okay. No.. its not. not when horrible things are being said about me. I had ONE taken down because they were using my name, picture and almost an identical user name. Im totally at a loss.

  31. I totally understand. I had someone who repeatedly hacked into my AOL mail.. and AOL would NOT do a thing about it. The best part is IF You have GMAIL, there is a link on the bottom of the screen that will tell you the IP address from the last places your account was accessed from. If Gmail can give you this information why cant AOL? I had to delete al my AOL email addreses and go with Gmail.

  32. I joined a religious site a little over 2 years ago. There was some debate, disagreement and discussion but about 6 months ago things turned really sour ending up with someone pasting my head onto the photo of a naked woman’s body. I reported it to the administrators of the site. They did not respond for 7 hours. I then reported it to the FBI. Everyone got mad at me because the administrators had to remove it and try to figure out who had done this. Others began to harass me to the point that I finally had to leave. SAD BUT TRUE. In the process they told me that I was, in fact, the bully…

  33. In process of communicating w/ the Victims Advocates..Nobodys gonna slander Me or My Son and not have it Heard if Lawsuit is needed I will certainly will go to that Level..Text, phone messages/calls..anything on a Computer gets documents this Girl dont miss a Beat!!!..

  34. There is a cyber bully of the worse kind by the name of Wendy Evesen who frequents different sites,creating multible accounts,then bullying everyone who will not put up with her.At this moment,she is on a site called,under the names of Ceras,MasterRohaan,FOLA and many other names.She posts pictures of what she claims to be human hearts in jars,telling people that if they stand against her, their hearts will end up like the ones depicted.She threatens them with her group she calls the Black Dragons.There is so much more and I dont believe Ive seen many,if any online bullies as bad as her.Now she is spamming members to sign contracts in blood and pay homage to her and it looks more and more like a cult each day.Admin hasnt done anything about her,and everyone is at a loss as to what to do.And this woman is supposed to be an ordained rev.from Australia.
    Im glad to have come across this site.

  35. An “animal rights” group is publishing defamatory comments about me on the internet, that cast past events in a false light and entirely distort the truth. I never hurt the animals in question: I devoted my life to protecting them. Their comments misrepresent me, and impact or destroy my ability to seek any kind of employment in future, or to have any kind of normal social relationships or friends. Their comments have been “out there” for years — without my knowledge. On discovering these defamatory comments, I was horrified, and asked several times that they be removed. The author and publisher believes he can say anything that he wants about anyone, without consequences. And he attempts to further sensationalize his site by requiring that I engage in a public rebuttal of his untruths on his blog/website, which I am unwilling to do. I have been intensely distressed, and acutely depressed, since reading these online and misrepresentative comments. I am not at all surprised young people commit suicide when others are allowed to trash them like this over the internet. What can I do? I have no money to give attorneys, which I have not found to be able to act in their clients’ best interest rather than their own best interest, in the past. The situation is intolerable. These are adults, but acting worse than teenage bullies. I am unable to cope with this. Have you any suggestions?

  36. I think ya’ll need to grow up. From what I seen this chatroom has become the epitome of all things wrong with the world. If you cant stand a person in real life, what do you do? Beat them up? Or act like an adult and stay away from them. Until both sides can step back and see what they are doing to enhance this problem and take responsibility for making this room hit this all time low. There is no help for either of you. GROW UP.

  37. Any any one else weighing in on this fiasco is nothing but trouble makers. Come on direct feed to a chatroom? Really? You need more help than you have brains. This is the internet not real life. You people need to get a grip on reality. In the past few weeks, I have seen nothing but bashing on BOTH sides of the fence.
    And no one is immune to it. Several years ago it was a joy to come in this chatroom, type to old friends, make new friends. Seriously people, who cares anymore? Back biting snivelling fools is what you have all turned into. Im finished preaching now. So keep on what your doing, I will be sitting there watching and making my recommendations.

  38. their is a site call jamaican matie&groupie that bullies gay and youngteen, just the other day they put me up talking about me and my six kids it is promote disrespectful things and start fight they have gang war and every thing on it i want to know how to go about it to stop this site cause i am loosing it.

  39. dose these count as “being cyber bullyd btw”?

    so.. there i was chatting with someone in a vertual world, i started to tell her my plans to get a sim in the online world shut down for pedophile sex, then she got mad at me when i told her “if the sim dose not get shutdown im gona work on getting the vertual world shut down for allowing it to contenue” so after that she started to Harass and Defame me sence the year 2011.. she told so many lies to so many player sin that world.. that they all started to beleave her “and the lies told on me got out of hand”..she made me look like a pedophile so evryone reported me and i was auto-banned..i lost 17,000 frainds bc of her lies she told on me and the “abuse apeal team” of that world will not read the chat logs i send them as proof.,.now idk how im going to get unbanned but… i do have plans to comet cuacide by walking to the owner of the vertual world and seting the building on fire if no one is going to listion to my abuse appeal case about how she defamed me to the point of no return >.<

    so.. dose being :"defamed" count as cyber bullying?

  40. i am not being bullied myself but i play a game online and am disgusted how the admins of this site allow nasty, vile, gay racism bashing on this site and nothing happens to these people, i wanted to know who do i complian to about this site as i cant sit there and watch all of this and not do anything about it, and yes i keep going on there as lots of the players are either to old or ill to defend themselfs or its 15 against one, i have sent proof of all the bullying to admin but nothing seems to happen, surely a bingo site cant just sit back and allow all of this

  41. The plane tickets were promised, nothing was said about “Event Tickets” the stipulation was, name and address to complete the Plane Ticket transaction. You need to read the Room Log as I have done.

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      Guest (unregistered) wrote, in response to The Real Guest (unregistered):
      The plane tickets were promised, nothing was said about “Event Tickets” the stipulation was, name and address to complete the Plane Ticket transaction. You need to read the Room Log as I have done.
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      • i like how they dont use thier names. i invite you to the room AOL native american chat and see for yourself if these names guest and real guest ever come in, i say its thier DIRECT CHAT line they use. hahhahahaha its funny how they give themselves away, Plex is just mad because i pasted that letter in here. He would bethe ony other person to have gotten the letter I sent to e wadda. Plexaglass your just giving yourself away. you can contact Plexaglass aka walter wilbanks 26 wilbanks rd commerce Ga. hahhhhahaha

        • They have a right to their privacy. The letter you wrote to wadda is posted online in several different places, anyone can read it, along with all the letters you have written about these people, one was sent to people in the UK .Talk about liar and trouble maker. Give it up.

  42. okay so “finding” and looking at a video im in by a little girl who collects my work, isnt stalking? or did you just find these by accident? hahhhahaha thats funny. notice i use my name when posting. did the guest? NO. hahahahahaha

    • Shiwibear02 posted the site of his video into the chat room himself. Anyone who went to look at the video would not be a stalker. Shiwwibear02 has been trying for years to force people to give him their names, addresses, phone numbers , those who are smart enough not to give him this information are constantly bullied by him and his cyber gang. If someone wanted to give shiwibear02 their name address and phone numbers , they would.These people don’t want anything to do with shiwibear02 in any way. I do not blame them after seeing how he stalks people online, imagine if he had peoples real life information?

  43. Now that everyone has witnessed, the extreme cyber bulling, which goes on in cyber chat’s by adults. Maybe now would be a good time to reflect on, where this all starts, does it start as a child and carried over to adulthood? are the now adult bullies the children who were bullied while a child. Where will it end? Thanks to everyone who helped bring Adult Cyber bullying to the attention of the world. Especially those who endured the Cyber Bullying, Plexaglass, Missshoshone, the rest know who you are. Let’s let the bullies continue their ranting’s, we can move on.

  44. Whats funny is you thinking Ndn4ndnzs10 is Daniel Cardenas, he isn’t that’s a hahahahaha. Ndn4ndnzs10 has told you he isn’t Daniel Cardenas at least a million times. Time you grow up isn’t it?

  45. I am being unmercifully cyber bullied in a game on facebook that is basically a chat room. I file almost daily reports to Playdom the creator of the game and have even reached out to facebook but nothing is ever done. A facebook group was created using my first and middle initials with my last name. It was filled with photo’s on myself and my children and making fun of my looks, my weight and emotional issues i have suffered due to the loss my father at mother at 9 …my brother on Christmas Day of 88 and the loss of my mother-in-law (best friend) a year before i started playing the game. When i began playing, it was really my first experiance on the internet. A friend ask me to start playing with her. I did not realize how cruel and horrible people could be. I was having problems getting out and socialzing since the recent death of my mother-in-law, for whom i was the caregiver. We were extremely close and her illness and death brought back all the pain and anguish of the loss of my parents and brother. Despite being in therapy 2 X’s a week during her illness and still continuing to this day…I suffered incredibly. I was suicidal and began self-harming, often referred to as cutting. A individual cuts themselves on the outside to relieve the pain on the inside. It is more commonly associated with youth but can and does happen during all ages.

    At first the game was wonderful because i have always been outgoing and social but my depression was causing me not to be able to go out and meet people. The game met that need by giving me a opportunity to socialize with people…I falsely thought that everyone i met was my friend. You have a house (group) that you add as friends to play the game with and you have a feed in which the people in your house are all talking. I developed a private friendship with a girl and we shared our emotional issues by private emails. I considered us good friends. I added some people she suggested to my house and we were all having fun until i noticed them bullying players from other houses. I removed them from my house and it strained my relationship with this friend. Eventually i told her that i wanted to remain friends outside the game but due to the people in her house that were being cruel and bullying others i was going to remove her from my house….that is when everything went bad. She put out in public that i was a “Cutter” with emotional issues and then she added the LIE that i have incestuous feelings for my son. It started a 2 year campaign to harass, lie, bully, talk about and ruin my reputation. Their goal to run me out of a game that i have as much right to play as anyone. I refuse to bow down to bullies. Every aspect of my appearance and life have been made fun of. My name, address and phone number have been posted. I have been called a pedofile and letters were sent to people in my house telling them i am a pedofile. One person who’s husband was military and suffered a traumatic head injury and medically discharged joined the game just to harass me as well. He made threats to have my son..A Marine stationed in Washington D.C. at that time and assigned to the unit that has presidential duties, found and beaten up by his military buddies. It was also threatened that his chain of command would be notified and informed about his “Crazy, Incestuous, Pedofile, Mentally Unstable mother. My son was called all kinds of horrible things and by the way…he has never played this game or spoken to any of these people. I was told that i deserved to have him come home a invalid, missing limbs or in a steel coffin. I was told to do the world a favor and put a gun in my mouth and pull the trigger along with the comment that this would all end when i perforated my soft palette. Our home was looked up by satellite and talked about along with our vehicles. Horrible bigoted remarks were made about my other son which were totally untrue….that he is a homeless meth addict and comments to horrible to repeat (again untrue) about his sexual preference. Even my daughter and my husband were targeted. My husband is a police officer and when i showed him the threats against our son, he went online and looked this man up. It wasnt hard because this man had recently been awarded a purple heart for his head injury. My husband read the published article about this man and the effects of his traumatic head injury, which included loss of impulse control..inability to manage anger or emotional issues that are severe enough that he can not hold a job. The article said he was being treated and helped by the Wounded Warrior Project and listed his mentor’s name and email. This really frighten us as parents. This man lived in very close proximity to were our son was stationed. Our son’s position at that time..due to his work at the White House…required a high security clearance. Our son knew nothing about what was going on and if he had he would have had to share that with his superiors…effecting his position. My husband had a duty, not only as a father but as a law enforcement officer, to report this man and his threats. He contacted the mentor by email and attached the screenshots of the threats and ask the mentor to talk to this man and make sure that he was getting any emotional help that he needed. The mentor responded and acknowledged he had seen the screenshots. He said it was not their “normal” policy to become involved in these types of issues but that they would talk to him. That satisfied us. Evidently the WWP decided that to protect themselves should anything happen to our son…they contacted the Veterens Administration and the local police. We NEVER made a call to either one. This man was almost hospitalized because of the threats he made against me and my son. He was removed from facebook and the game but it only made the situation worse for me in the game.

    His wife and the rest of the group just stepped up their harassment. They have threatened people that if they dont remove me from their groups…they themselves will be removed. They post on whiteboards of other people…that can be seen by any of the millions who play the game..that i am incestuous with my son, that i am crazy and constant daily remarks about me being a “Cutter”. Things like “I wish you would choke on one of your fat rolls because we are tired of waiting for you to CUT TOO DEEP and bleed out”. They name their avatars things like “Got Knife And Urges” …”Incest is Best” etc. Despite being blocked from my board and facebook, they know everything that i saw on my feed or put on my facebook. Then they take the information, anything from what i am cooking for supper to my pet being sick and use it to make fun of me all day on their boards. This game is a fighting game so they attack my avatar all day to the point that i cant play the game but that is considered “gameplay” even though it is done to the point of harassing. If i just ignore them, they go post horrible comments about me on the boards of my sisters (friends) and attack them unmercifully. Their harassment of my sisters has caused most of them to remove me just to be able to play and enjoy the game. The will stay on the person until they remove me then they are left alone. Probably half the people who play do so for the social aspect and not the fighting aspect. I screenshot everything they say about me and report it to playdom but nothing has been done except to mute them for a period of days (less than a week) so that they cant talk or post on boards. As soon as that is over they are back at it. They create fake accounts with my name and use it to serial attack other players and make them think it is me. They constantly talk about my weight, my looks, my family etc. A letter was written anonymously and sent to my husband at his work. It threatened to go to his boss and say that i was using my husband position to threaten people (a total lie). It said that if he did NOT make me stop playing the game..his boss would be contacted. My son was sent a e-mail on his facebook..saying that i was suicidal and needed to be removed from the internet. My husbands work was called and the phone number posted. Threats are constantly being made against my family if i dont stop playing. I do document, screenshot and report everything but it continues. I had to remove my family to a seperate facebook account just to protect their privacy. It spilled over onto facebook a long time ago. I am constantly being made fun of because of my depression and self harm issues (which i have not done in over 3 years) I am accused of faking suicide attempts and constantly being told i should end everyones misery and kill myself. I have reached out for help from every place i can find but i refuse to let people bully me out of a game that i have as much right to play as they do. If their tactics are allowed to work then they will just move from me to someone else. As long as facebook and game creators allow this to go on…it will continue.Something needs to be done to make them accountable for the behavior they allow to continue in their games and sites. Facebook tells me it is a playdom issue and playdom says they take the matter seriously and are taking action..but that i cant be informed of any action that is occurring. It is the same automated response i get every time i file a report. The players are still there everyday and doing the same thing, so NOTHING is being done. When a account was made using my name and photo, i reported it only to be told that they have no control over how the account is made on facebook yet they do have the ability to delete that account from the game and they dont. Facebook says to report it via the report button but that button does not appear in the game..only on facebook. The bullies get around that by creating the account on facebook but blocking me so that i am not able to find it and report it. When i report to facebook as a 3rd party violation they allowed me to tell the story and then told me that they had contacted playdom and that playdom was addressing the issue..which they DO NOT do. When i ask facebook to connect me to someone that i could talk to about the matter, the responded that i should report via the report button. I responded that i was having difficulting doing that because of the reasons i stated above and again ask to be connected to someone that could help me. The repeated their earlier response. I repeated mine and they never responded again. When i reported the group page using my name and photo’s i received a response from facebook that my report had been unfounded. They said i could file a repeal but said if it was unfounded i could lose my account. I was in complete shock…since the account had photo’s of me and my children in it and i never authorized anyone to use them. I did file the appeal and the account was removed by i never received a response from facebook. I dont know if facebook removed it or if the bullies got scared and removed it themselves. My husband is reluctant to intervene because of his position and the fact that it would look like he is using that position. I dont work and we rely on his income to survive. We have considered a lawsuit but it is very costly and difficult to prosecute with everyone living in different states. He did talk to the local FBI agent about it but was told that they dont get involved in cyberbully cases against adults. My reputation has been completely ruined by their lies and the tactics they use to harass anyone who tries to defend me or stand up for me. People that dont even know me…talk about me and spread the lies that they have been told about me. It has caused me severe emotional pain and anguish. It’s not right and should not be allowed to occur online.

    • the same type of people that are participating in the horrific event to discredit you are the same type of people that killed Jesus Christ. Look at the movie “the Passion of Christ.”

  46. A well-known American scientific figure published an accusation against me in a Mexican magazine 2 years ago. He said that I wrote an article with his name and I gave a conference making me pass by him. I don’t know how someone can confuse me if I am a woman and he is man. He accused me of madness. Nobody asked my declaration; Mexican mass media spread the news.

    Nobody search evidence or tried to found if there was something else on those accusations. There was no legal action against me, but I couldn’t defend.
    The article was published two days after that I had left Mexico city to spend the Christmas holidays in the United States, where I live since 2008. My e-mail and my social networks were hacked.

    In the Mexican magazine where he published, the people said anything they wishes, including all sorts of lies. When I returned to Mexico I lost my job, not for the scandal, but because I missed my work because all of this gave me heart damage.

    I lost my job in Mexico, my colleagues do not speak to me and I came back to the United States, I was away by depression for 6 months and then I got up, I began to write and it’s what I do so far. However, under different names, and multiple emails a person from Mexico has attacked me in multiple forums. Send emails to my editors, publisher, sometimes attacks my social networks, and publishes the original note which appeared in Mexico. He always send copy to this famous scientist. My attacker is obsessed with him and won’t stop until see me dead, I think

    I’ve searched help but I have not found anyone.

    I just saw that the laws do not condemn these actions. When someone says is an expert in these things, only send me books that I should read. I AM A VICTIM. Police do not help me because all this started in Mexico and my perpetrator is Mexican. Mexico does not help me because I am not resident of Mexico.

    So I just keep holding on and trying to survive.

    Anyone only needs a name to skip the laws, accusing someone and make you guilty, without having to prove otherwise.

  47. I am really sorry for your issue, Alma. I too have been cyber bullied on forums, message boards, and it has followed me to other sites too. People don’t like themselves, that’s why they do that to others. It’s very unfortunate. I wish it could all go away.

  48. I am a very popular school teacher in Fl. I am being cyber bullied by an ex who is trying to ruin my career after a judge ruled in my favor for an injunction for sexual assault. Although it is against the law here in Florida and I have lots of evidence against him the state attorney will not do anything. He has even admitted it to people and yet they won’t do anything. I feel like I am living in the twilight zone. He is so protected and I am the one suffering. I don’t know what to do anymore.

  49. I went the wrong way in dealing with a group of fantatic cyberbullies and they have spent the last three years finding ways to attack two steps shy of any laws. They dug up a court record from 2004 where I had to sue my employers. They posted that in their blog and only the parts they could make look the worst. Now they’ve written a 200,000 page book with me in it as a “fictional” character that they are selling on Amazon. I can’t do anything unless I can sue them and show sufficient damages. But what damages? What did I do to become their permanent plaything? I stood up to them for someone else and “got into it with them”. Wrong way. I retaliated and now it will never ever end. Even though I’ve blocked them on Facebook and Twitter, it never ends. I’m “tagged” in all they do so when people google me for my work, they find the horrible writings about me. I don’t know what to do and they claim to be an “initiative” for positive things, but they sure aren’t. Anyway, that’s my story in a nutshell.

  50. I understand how you all feel. It is unbelievable that people can do this to others and get away with it. Until there is consequences for the behavior, these people will continue to bully others.

  51. my ex husband of two years continues to text message me on a weekly basis physically threating me and my husband, calling me extremely crude names, and threating to tell my children all kinds of delusions he has. i have asked him to stop. a judge has ruled for him to stop not once but twice. i have put a restraining order against him. i have put a protective order against him. however, these have a very limited time frame of enforcement. since we have children i still have to be in contact with him. our contact is only through texting or email. i purchased a phone for my children to take to his house so i do not have to call his phone. however, anytime there is a “problem” or something doesn’t go his way, he starts with the threats and harassment through texting. i am at a lose. attorney fees are over $5k now and nothing seems to get any better. any suggestions?

    • Can you download all your texts and print out all your emails? If so and he has a court order, you should print them all out as soon as you are able (even if you have to get a thumb drive and go to a library or friends house), you should turn them in the first business day after he does them and ask that he is found in contempt of court. The clerk of court should be able to tell you if there are forms you can use for that or how to proceed in filing on your own. You could also show them to the police while there is an active order. That’s all I can think of off hand.

  52. Count me in on adult victims – FBI and DOJ only care about children, law enforcement is useless, even though there are laws on the books, and asking the person to stop is like beating your head against a brick wall. I’ve been enduring this nightmare for over 6 years now and would like to connect with other victims, and will post others stories if they’d like.

    • FYI: The police don’t respond to SheboyganSpirit because she is a pathological liar and false accuser.

    • I have a person who started out as my neighbor. We’ve moved and she continues to harass us using various Social Media. We have had countless videos, pictures, web pages and postings deleted but each time she gets a little more crafty and it is getting harder and harder to get them removed.

  53. I wish I knew just what to do -have tried everything I could think of but now think if we pull together and brainstorm or just support each other, there must be some way to have our voices and concerns heard and heeded, too! Anyone can contact me via my link – and if you wish, share your story with me and I will post it on my blog.

  54. Thank you for posting this as I am being written about on a daily basis on another person’s blog after ending an online “friendship” with them. It is unending. I need to know what more to do from here.

  55. Adults cannot count on law enforcement on any level for protection if their tormentor is a retired Deputy Chief of a DOD agency. My bully is sending me emails from Maryland threatening to file a false report. I took the email to my local Georgia advocate to get an injunction against harassment, NOTHING! If I were a child or a lighter race maybe I wouldn’t have to live in fear of this psyco. By the way this psyco is my father and the reason I left home for good 30 years ago when I was only 13.

  56. I am dealing with a heavy blow of awful bullying on a few facebook pages. These people have never met me and are saying awful and horrible things than they have more and more people jumping on me when noone even knows me 🙁 Idk what to do. I deactivated my fb but ims cared its ruining my life. Im an adult doesnt make it any less hurtful

  57. I am an adult victim of cyberbullying by my husband’s ex-wife of 25 years and his 30 year old daughter. She has an unflattering picture of me posted on her Facebook and many, many derogatory comments made by her and her so called friends. Like Sheboygan says the law enforcement could care less. I have tried. I guess she has to kill me before anyone listens then it’s too late! I bet if I were the one doing it I would be in jail. She is the worst stalker, sociopath I have ever known. It scares me that she exists and blends in so easly in the world.

  58. Since 2010 my daughter (she is 22 years old now) has been harassed, bullied and threatened on facebook by my ex husband’s current wife. I along with my 16 year old son has been harassed by her as well ….. As recent as this weekend. Police say they can’t do anything about it because there is no proof that it is the current wife doing this. What she is doing is making up fake facebook pages (this weekend she made one of my exhusband.). She then request my son accept her as a friend, and because he thought this was his father, he accepted. Then she began a tirade of abuse.


  59. I have a person who has used YouTube and Facebook to harass me and I effectively had the information removed, however, each time they get a little smarter and find the loop holes and it takes longer to get the content removed. Now they are using Google+. I have effectively had two of their profiles removed but one remains and has for months. Why wont Google respond, especially when there is proof that the person has created several other similar profiles that have all ready been removed?

  60. There should be a way to submit a complaint and supply documentation that shows the history. When you can only report the one incident or have to go to each site it makes it very time consuming and delays action. IF the person is using multi Google products then Google should have a way to report multi profiles and social media sites in one place. They allow you to supply multi links in a report but not the documentation supporting the history of any previous sites/profiles that have all ready been removed. Very frustrating.

  61. I am being cyber stalked and cyber bullied by government employee at ip address and, for the past eleven years, no one will do anything. Now the they are using my email accounts to send spam so that my accounts are being delete for sending spam.t is obvious they have access to my account. When the FBI will do nothing, who else can I contact with my evidence of cyber crimes.

  62. I have been harassed and stalked by my boyfriends ex who also was my best friend, which ended when she used him to cosign for a car..then she dumped him//8 months later after a 3.4 year friendship he and I started a relationship…she didn’t like it..TOld him “anyone but her” and a bunch of crap..Since then she has repeatedly lied to me about her and him, and the latest is the worst…She has set up a fake FB page using his last name and we thought she was a relative so we friended her..I saw who it was, she actually put up a pic of a look alike guy in the bunk of her semi with her and said she was MARRIED…in a few days my relationship status was gone off my wal, and all the poems I wrote on his were deleted and gone, and I was unable to tag him or post on his wall..she has effectively deleted him from my existence..He thinks we should ignore it, he has no repect for FB and is non-confronational…She also calls him 50 times a day and he doen’t answer..she finds stuff out hat he is doing at his house and posts it on her FAKE one….I used to think it was just me she wanted out of the way and he still does think it is spite..but I have revised my thinking..I think it is him she is stalking ..and looking for attention from him by making me mad…I need to know how to get rid of her..Facebook is no help, But in his refusal to acknowledge this crap my boyfriend refuses to report her..

  63. Hard to act in the right way when it goes unacknowledged by FB…I feel as though I have been stripped of any rights, I am depressed and feel humiliated, but have no recourse..I agree she should face a penalty, but how??

  64. I have had people make multiple false profiles on facebook of myself. Everytime i report it to facebook, it is deleted. This is a relief, but brings you back down when another facebook profile, calling my a sl*t and a fat who*re, with pictures of myself and my family are made the very same day.

    I have had 8 fake facebook profiles made of me in total now, and it is relentless. I have been to the police and made 5 statements, and they told me there is nothing they can do unless the cyberbullyng is in a workplace or a school. If it is just someone you know, they say “contact facebook”

    I do not know what to do anymore, or how to escape this. It is ruining my life. I feel suicidal on a daily basis, and I don’t know how much more I can take of this anymore.

    I wish i had never met them, nor ever had facebook, where they got all my photos from. This has been going on for almost two years. This person is 30 years old, and very smart. He has found out all my parents details are rang them over 1000 times. (Their number is now changed)

    Social networking is the worst thing ever invented. It gives anyone alot of power to do anything they want. I am in the process of having to change my identity to escape this, as the internet is now littered with crap about me, making it extremely hard for me to live a normal life, find a job etc.

  65. Mocospace is notorious for allowing bulling to continue. They set up rules but do not enforce them. It is very sad. Many good people have left because of abuse, defamation of character and down right bulling.

  66. what about when a former supervisor creates a smear campaign, after an employee bullied out of workplace leaves for health reasons, mainly due to the abuse the employee reported, then was retaliated against. Employee is ill and jobless, with no cause (zero infractions and only outstanding work performance), yet workplace HR and mgmt side with the bully… Bully supervisor, in posession of all employee’s data, including SSN, impersonates the ill, ousted employee, and her husband, in over 25 online smear profiles/posts… then accuses the now former-employee of being violent and delusional with no cause, as supervisor creates even sex solicitation profiles, fake email accts and duplicates employee on social media sites ie: myspace, classmates, and represents self as employee in the worst of negative light…. When employer won’t believe it and actually helps supervisor (abusive) get rid of employee, calling employee “crazy” and believing falsehood from abuser that a lawsuit is coming their way…
    What can the now nonfunctional and badly suffering ousted worker do? (ptsd & multitude of physical health damage from sustained stress). if there is so much loss and healing that cannot even begin because the formerly outstanding worker is still under constant attack, now online, sustaining permanent global damage, smeared irreparably and terrified, what can this employee do?

    • I think death by suicide or live homeless is the only answer. Similar has happened to myself. My life is ruined. I am at the point of not caring at all.

  67. I am an adult victim of bullying on Facebook and have faced threats, defamation, and false criminal allegations based on imagination alone and for the purpose of scaring me. I had difficulty sleeping for 4 weeks and the anger that came out of what I felt and expressing it on Facebook drove a bunch of friends away. The bully appears to be a psychopath, which is a person who has the ability to convince people of anything. She basically destroyed my reputation, caused me a lot of mental anguish, and drove my friends away as a result of a conflict that she generated. I should have just walked away because by fighting back, I allowed her to destroy my relationships and win. Karma will get her in due time.

  68. I have been having a strange bout of cyber bullying from a former friend who for no reason I can think turned nasty. She began saying sick things about me like I had been abused by my father as a kid and turned a lot of our friends against me. I am currently seeking police advice and have removed my twitter account ratcheted up security on my Facebook and have all spyware up to date as she was even openly saying she was tracing my ip address. I know some people think closing accounts and moving on is cowardly or cutting and running but it seemed the most quick and efficient way of handling it. I did a few classic stupid things like retaliate and argue but soon realised this would facilitate the problem. A lot of people think if they argue back they are defending their corner, don’t you can’t apply logic to what is often illogical. It’s important to know beforehand how your social network features work, how you block and secure your info before you even begin friending people.

  69. What can you do when people have damaged you reputation based solely on lies they have perpetrated against you? I was in the teen entertainment news industry. I was an adult news reporter that focused on that area of entertainment because I loved networks like Disney and I blogging. Based on may age of being 40 a group of parents that I don’t know who they are tagged me as a Pedo and spread that around to various important people in the industry and these important people won’t deal with me now because these otherpeople have created a false reputation for me.

    Their claims were investigated by my local police dept and found not credible but the people in this business now will not touch me because of the hint of any sort of stuff like this. They believed it without question or contacting me to find out if what was being said was true. I have no criminal record at all. One ticket for driving on an expired license but was waved after taking care of the vehicle registration

    The problem is they are not doing this publicly but behind the scenes and I have been told about it from some sources that actually feel bad for me or otherwise I wouldn’t even know what was going on.

    How can I sue or do anything without any sort of concrete proof that they are slandering me behind closed doors. I do not know exactly what is being said and it probably gets worse the further it goes.

    How do you stop something like this? How can you defend you right to innocent until proven guilty with something like this?

  70. I am being bullyed badly by a woman in a chat room…I can not complain course her boyfriend runs the dating site and he is the admin in the chat room and also joins in..He told me my photo shouldn’t be there course i was to ugly…She’s says Things like fat f**k, f**ken fatso, f**ken ugly, idiot, your stupid, and there more the list goes on…The chat room is great until she comes in then all her friend who talk to me normal before she arrives start on me…I suffer from Bi-Pola and i am on the edge and can understand why people commit suicide after being bullyed…I haven’t kept any conversations, for one he made sure i didn’t, looking back now and two i didn’t know i had too..But all chat room conversations are kept….Didn’t think i could do anything course her boyfriend runs the site…If i complain or say anything i was told my profile would be deleted, that’s not fair…PLEASE help what can i do apart from leaving which is what they are trying to make me do i think so they win….I suppose that’s all i can do but she will continue doing to others like she is now unless she is stopped…You should see the way they treat new chatter omg its so bad and if you don’t break to there will or if they say anything back, he will delete their profiles, which i have witnessed a many a times..he also listens in, in the private chat room….He also shares private and personal info of people who have sign up to all or whoever is in the chat room at the time, which im pretty sure is against the law?????

  71. After my post here months ago…..i tried to take my own life. Now i have just given up. We dont just need a place that we can vent, we need someone (lawyer) who is willing to help us take legal action to force social media to ACTUALLY step up and do something about the bullying they allow to occur. It is near impossible to get hold of a real person at facebook who might actually listen to what you have to say. Their answer “Report Button” is not available in some avenues or when they have you blocked but are spreading vicious lies about you. You cant hit a report button for that. I am just done and have accepted that i have to suffer alone.

    • Its a shame there are people who enjoy being cruel and nasty to others. I am a senior citizen and have been bullied, and tormented on Topix Message Board. This person sought out personal info about a family tragedy, and constantly was posting hurtful and ugly comments, about me and my family. He hides behind an anonymous name, yet was posting my real name, and names of family members. I sympathize with you…but don’t ever let some ne’r do well make you consider taking your life. The person doing you wrong is not worth it. Take care.

    • I too am at my wits end. I have gone to the police three times. They say they cannot do anything about it because it is an internet thing. Ridiculous! I have lost my business, my house, my son now lives with his grandparents because I fear for his life also. My ex boyfriend has been doing this for two years. The internet is perfect for criminals. Crimes they can get way with. Something needs to be done and soon!

  72. I am trying to find an adult forum in which to discuss current issues. I was cyber-bullied on our local news format. I either ignored them, or defended myself. I was told to shut up, go away, and finally one man told me to kill myself because he described my responses as too long. I contacted the local TV station who hosts the comments of our local community, but doubt I will hear back. Then I found this site and thought it might be different especially when it came to cyber-bullying. Boy Howdy, was I wrong. This site has as many unadult screamers on it, actually claiming Native Americans are not real. Disagreeing with someone on a subject is fine, but to put them down, threaten a person who doesn’t agree with you should be a crime. I refuse to use Facebook because of the problems one of your commenters made. I guess I won’t come back to this site either. I guess some uneducated, unmannered, and threatening folks are everywhere and that is a really sad statement. As long as they don’t have to say it to your face they become nastier than ever. Good luck to the good commenters and I would quit if these adult responses are extremely abusive. To the cyber-bullies, shame on you and with your foolish and hurtful responses.

  73. Our family posted our own web site with name etc. We told the truth with our own web site. We described the series of events etc. You can control your own web site. We didn’t put up their name but added location and our story. They stopped. We personally opened up a court case and filed subpena’s to get IP addresses and track them. You can even start a small claims case and submit subpena’s to the site owners by tracking them down through their hosting companies. 1st submit subpena to hosting company to get their location or use ‘who is domain tools,’ Then, if abuse report to google. Yes, Google has terms and conditions for uses of their interview services ! You cannot do what ever you won’t on google.

    • Sorry: Here’s what you do in better format. You can issue subpeana to hosting company legal depts by eMail. You don’t have to personally serve as they get so many. Usually, within 24-4 hours they will eMail you back with location, address, name of website owner. You then, issue via eMail a subpoena to web site owner and ask them for the IP of the person who posted the bad stuff. If they person posted a lot – you can go to court and get a restraining order under Federal and State Cyber harassment laws. Just as you would a restraining order against an person who physically abuses you. But, you need to keep all evidence, series of events printed out in EXHIBITS and series of events with numbering your exhibits. Keep it all in a file, in order of events. Also, scan everything on a flash drive or DVD to give series of events to attorneys. So you don’t have to turn over your originals to attorneys or keep making copies of everything. We shut our stalker down and now Fed’s going after.

  74. Actually, freedom of speech does not include harming people. When you harm someone with your freedom of speech and it’s all wrong information – that falls under: slander, harassment, bullying, abuse. Then, you can (even) get a small case started on your own – without an attorney. It’s actually pretty simply. You can find Pleading paper to submit your case in word doc. Once you learn the basics, anyone can do an attorneys job. You can Google legal codes under slander, harassment etc and read the legalities on it. We had to take control of our own lives (with no help from attorneys due to broke) to go after our stalker. Now the tables are turned on the stalker. Took 3 years. But, don’t allow anyone to trash your backyard. Don’t lower yourself to their tactics. Get even, our way and do it right and scare the living daylights out of them. When, the know they can’t hide any more. They will cry like babies.

  75. My granddaughter has someone using her name & her photos on Facebook. This person is asking men to put money on a green card. These men want their money back. We have filed it as a problem on Facebook AND sent them a letter about it. FACEBOOK WILL DO NOTHING ABOUT IT. They want my grand-daughter to report it on that page and the person doing this has my grand BLOCKED. She is willing to press charges on this person. Now looks like I am going to have to get a lawyer.

  76. I’ve added a new term (“cyberstalker”) to the Urban Dictionary. What usually happens with cyberstalking or cybermobbing is that the issue can be resolved because the people doing the stalking are using their own names to slander or otherwise destroy a person via the Internet. In my case, though, the hackers are completely nameless and seem to be from some sort of militant group hellbent on destroying me. I have several guesses as to who is at the root of their invasive techniques to drive me insane, but the proof remains to be found… Any ideas?

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